AM I overreacting feeling like this

[ReginaPhalange2]

My husband constantly tells me (at least three times a week) that my attitude is disgusting.
He says I need to take a look at my face.
I don’t feel this is warranted at all and tbh I’m sick of him telling me how I feel.

I went out with some friends for dinner last night and there was absolute hell on with the 6 and 3 year old and he couldn’t handle it so was texting me asking what time I could come home. I was only out three hours.

I took out child to gym this morning for her hour class, it takes 20mins each way so I hung around. He wasn’t happy about that and said my face was a mile long when I came in.

I asked if he wanted anything from the shop while I was out and he replied saying how long are you going to be, but didn’t say anything about what he wanted from the shop then had a go at me for being selfish and only thinking of me and not bringing anything on for a bbq???

My stomach is turning am I overreacting here??

It sounds like his attitude is the one needing changed. Maybe your face is miserable at the thought of going home to his attitude.

My friend's husband used to call her every time we went out too. I always got annoyed because it usually meant our nights out were cut short.

My stbexh was like this. My house is nice to be in now he's gone and the dc are more settled

And you're with him because....?

I’m not trying to diagnose your partner but there are a couple of mental conditions which make sufferers more likely to mis read faces in a negative way
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4579484/
psychcentral.com/blog/bipolar-teens-may-misread-facial-expressions/
Please don’t discuss this with him...he may well feel it is an attack.

Your husband is an abusive pig. He's not going to admit it or change. Have you thought about leaving him? You deserve better.

One of those links is about teenagers with bipolar disorder

He sounds delightful. Has he always been such a wanker?

He’s gotten so much worse over the last few years.

There’s loads more than this. We broke up a few months back then said we would try again and nothing has changed.
I’m waiting to hear about a job I went for because I stupidly gave up my career for my kids and I went to see a childminder yesterday and he just isn’t interested.

I thought you had left him (if you are who I think you are) because he was financially abusive

He won’t chanfe

I did leave but we decided to try again, sometimes I think I’m going insane. Trying to make changes like me going back to work but I’m the only one making changes it seems

We broke up a few months back then said we would try again

Why would you though?

Complete waste of your time and effort.

From what you're saying, you've tried, he's not, maybe now you're setting up on a new start with going back to work it's time to go for it on your own. It will be hard but is so much better than feeling like you are now

You are not overreacting. He is (textbook) abusive and he won't ever change. Good idea with looking into the job and child care. I'm sorry you are experiencing this - you deserve better.

He is abusive, that is why you are the only one making changes. Abusers only change by getting worse.

Www.freedomprogramme.co.uk

You are not overreacting, but making you feel like you are or making you feel crazy works for him because it stops you from permanently leaving.

m.youtube.com/watch?v=d5NHBn5p9vY

This is not a normal relationship. People who love you don't treat you like this.

He expects you to rearrange your face into expressions he finds pleasing? Captain Charisma there.

If i were you, I would wait until I had that job and some financial independence, then kick him out. It will be difficult working a new job while trying to go through a break up, so be aware of that. However, it will be worth it in the end.

Good luck!

Thanks xxx