Just moaning really as I know where I want to go but need to wait a bit longer.
The relationhsip hasn’t been good for years. H has the knack to consider that anything that isn’t quite ‘right’ is me being wrong/lazy/not knowing what I’m talking about.
So me saying that looking after two under two was hard work was me being over the top, lazy if the house want perfectly tidy at the end of the day etc... that was until he ended up having to look after them in his own every other weekend (as I was working) and then yep, you guessed it, it was actually hard work.
Didnt trust me when I was said I was exhausted. And somehow stupidly I sort of believe it and pushed through. That is until I was so exhausted I couldn’t get up a flight of stairs and was diagnosed with ME.
Same with my work, dc school etc
So Brexit has come and passed. As an EU citizen I have been terrified of what the outcome could be. And H reaction? Nothing. Not one word or action to show that he would have my back. That our marriage and family was important to him. That he would do whatever he could so we could stay together. Absolutely nothing.
When I needed some documentation from him to try and get PR, he did nothing for about two months and the told me ‘he didn’t want to bother HR with that’ (I needed a certificate from them re health insurance)
When I vaguely asked if he would consider relocating, what did he think our options were if I couldn’t stay in the UK, he basically ignored me (that was way before the UK sort of agreed a deal re EU citizens so there was certainty in what would happen).
I so wish I had recovered from the ME enough to really be able to stand up in my two feet and leave. Send him out of the door and be able to stand up on my two feet financially.