Can't bring myself to tell people about our separation

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I've stopped wearing my ring but no one has noticed. It's only been 3 days since he moved out, and 6 days since I told him it was over, so it's still early days anyway.
Today I was at a party with school mums and I just couldn't tell them. I've not even told one my best friends yet.
How did you tell people? :/

They may have noticed but don’t want to pry. I’m sure it’s not that they don’t care. When I was in the process of divorcing my ex a woman at work that I didn’t know well came up to and said she’d noticed I’d put my rings on my right hand and said she assumed we’d broken up, I was mortified as we didn’t usually chat and I was in utter hell!

When you’re ready you’ll tell people. “DP/DH and I have spilt up” will do it. But wait until you’re ready to talk about it I think. I found some people were kind and supportive and others nosey, gossipy and judgemental. A lot of others still weren’t remotely surprised because I’d looked bloody miserable for a couple of years!

Do you know it’s hard to tell them at the moment?

Sorry you’re having a difficult time, lean on your friends if you want a friendly ear or some company, take the time to digest it all if that’s what you need right now

I'm the same...decided to call it a day last Monday, have told one friend who I don't see often - so even that was by text!!.. not told my mum or anyone at work yet, think I need to feel stronger than I do now to be able to deal with the sympathy/nosiness/
questions
But it will probably just be a "me and DP have split up" and leave it at that

You don't have to tell anyone, as in 'make an announcement', really. The opportunity will present itself soon enough where you will simply say "Oh XX and I aren't together anymore" as part of an ongoing discussion. Don't sweat it for now.

I told the people that I felt needed to know quite quickly - family, closest friends and people at work. I then waited several weeks till I felt stronger and wrote an email that I sent to my wider circle of family and friends.
You will be amazed at the support you get. Work were particularly lovely allowing me to work very flexible when things got on top of me.

I found talking about it face to face with anyone was very difficult. Took advantage of text for most people, it makes encounters a lot easier once poeple know. Even if you don't want to talk about it.

I moved away home for a bit. When i returned i told 2 very gossipy people. Worked a treat. Job. Done.

Someone I know took 2 years to tell her mother, who lives across the road and she sees every day! Because he worked away, the mother assumed she had just missed seeing him. I told people, simply because I was distraught and couldn't hide it. But do whatever is best and feels most comfortable for you.My two closest friends were brilliant at giving me support.

I think you're right and it'll be best by text or something and hopefully it won't be too awkward. Thanks for the advice ladies. It's refreshing to have a thread that doesn't have horrible answers for once ;)

I sent a lot of friends a short explanation of what was happening using fb messenger. I also said in the message, please don’t reply here but feel free to pm me if you want (as the everyone didn’t have to get the whole lot of messages!) that worked well. For important friends and family and people I work closely with I just told them bluntly.
It’s a hard one that’s for sure. I still havent changed my fb status as I know that will be really strange, especially to people I am not in regular contact with! 😳

I did it by text. I basically told my friends what had happened and that I wasn't ready to talk about it in person just yet. Everything's is easier to process when you're tying it. They were great about it