So me and my partner have been together for a year and a half (so not too long), were expecting our first little one next year (he has another child from a past relationship who is almost 9). Anyway so last year he cheated on me, I found out and after it all decided to give him another chance. I do believe he's not cheating and has been faithful since, and I 100% agree on second chances. So that's not the issue, but of course there's times I have doubts and that. But I'm really struggling with our relationship, I get im hormonal but I don't think I'm over thinking or over exaggerating this in anyway. Point is, were not happy, were not half as close as we used to be at all, I feel like I'm walking on egg shells half the time so he doesn't get the hump as I can't be bothered to deal with arguments and him tbf, our romance/intamicy/sex life is pretty shit, well not existent you could say. I've discussed it with him and he says he finds it weird knowing our child is inside of me, especially if she was to kick or whatever whilst we were doing something. Now I get this, some men do feel this way. But he doesn't find me attractive, we have no flirtatious side, no intamicy or romance and I don't think we ever will. I don't work yet I've bought most the stuff for the baby, yes I got the maternity grant but would be nice for him to at least offer or just buy a few bits anything. I don't bring in a lot of money as I'm on universal credit at the moment, and he does help out sometimes if I need extra money for bus fair, food whatever but will moan about it. I'm made to feel bad for not bringing in much money etc which is just shitty. I also suffer with mental health, which he doesn't understand or even try to. When I even mention seeing the physciatrist, he's so against it and makes me feel guilty or ashamed for going. He says a lot of things without thinking, and doesn't understand my MH at all, which I get, so many people struggle to understand it, including me at times. But it's the point that he doesn't try to, never read up on it or asked to talk about it so he can understand more. He's extremely lazy, to the point where he rarely baths.. sometimes he'll cook or wash up but that's about it. And when he does, anyone would think he'd done everything in the world and done me a massive favour. Now I get that he works evenings 5 days a week, and I don't expect him to do a lot. But things like putting his washing in the basket, putting his rubbish away etc is just pure lazy. He used to get on with my family, but he lives at my mums with me and they are now getting the hump too. They moan to me about him, he moans to me about them. He rarely makes effort with my niece and nephew, and just moans when they're around. I love his daughter to bits and constantly make an effort but more than him tbf. He's always shouting at her, or moaning, never trying to arrange plans. When we do have her, she just wants to go home most the time or misses her mum/step dad. She tries with him and sometimes he'll bother, other times she is made to just sit down, or be quiet or whatever. When we do go out, it usually starts out good then he gets the hump or is bored or doesn't like what were doing basically, and we start to argue and it turns into a horrible day. Then he'll get over his strop and pretend nothing happened, tbf I do too because I can't be bothered with it. A few months ago I discussed ending it with him and he was all about changing it and he wants us to be together, as a family, he loves me etc etc. Sometimes it seems like he does love me and tbf I still love him. He makes so much effort with my bump already, scans etc, talking to the bump and about the future. But I don't think it's going to change once she is here, not for the better anyway. I want to try make it work but i think deep down I know it won't. But I'm less than 5 weeks from due and nows really not the time to end it, at all, I want him there at the birth for my daughter's sake and mine tbf. I've debated waiting and seeing if it changes once she's here, do I discuss it one last time but make it more clear he's gone if it carries on? I have no idea what to do. I want the perfect family but not if it carries on like this. I need help on what to do, I know the likelyhood is it won't work, but do I try again? Do I wait until the babys here? Someone please help, it's not helping my mood or sanity.