I could have put this in "Teenagers" forum but am putting it here, shamelessly, for traffic.
Am single mother with DS, just turned 16. I have some serious physical health issues but just-about-cope. Stress is not good for me or my health, so I try to keep things as peaceful, even keel as possible.
Tonight I was cooking dinner which takes a lot of effort for me. At the end, whilst doing the final touches and serving up in the kitchen, with a very sharp knife in hand, my son comes in without me being aware, stands behind me and flicks cold water all over my back.
I scream in shock and feel suddenly v angry. I have told him many times not to startle me in this way - but obviously its not gone "in". When I remonstrate angrily, he gets rude and defensive.
This is just one example. There's often a general low level negativity and moaning in particular, rudeness and "attitude". Plus various odd annoying behaviours - constantly cracking his knuckles, talking with his mouth full, regularly interrupting me/talking over me loudly, various other things.
I am hoping there might be some kind of refreshing point of view that I can't see. I am just stuck and feel regularly stressed and at a loss as to what to do. Any thoughts or ideas as to what I should do or how I can improve things?