Hi, I am looking for a bit of advice. Don't usually post on the boards often and have no one to talk to about this :(
A month ago my partner asked if I would like to go on a trip with him down to Wales coast from London in June / July time for a weekend or day trip. So for a couple of weeks he said when he knows how works goes we can arrange it nearer the time and I was looking forward to this. Then a couple of weeks later he tells me that a work mate wants to go there with him to same town for day out to the coast. I thought that this was a bit strange and reminded him that he was meant to be taking me there. He said nothing is planned with his friend and he will take me. I then suggested we could all go together with his work friend to share fuel costs and this was agreed and no date set. Then yesterday while having lunch with him his friend calls him to ask him how much he wants for fuel and can he bring extra people in the car? My partner said yes that's fine. I questioned him about this and he told me nothing had been planned no date was set for going. But I found it weird that his friend asked those questions if nothing planned.
Later that day feeling that he was not being honest I asked him if his friend knew that I was coming on trip when it is planned and he then told me that they were going on Thursday to Wales coast and no room for me to travel with them. He also said it had only just been arranged a few minutes ago. He said he could take me at the weekend instead for a whole weekend but its too short notice for child care.
This has upset me a lot, I knew he was lying, he had tried to plan this trip in secret and only told me because I got suspicious. He would of gone and I would of know nothing about it. Also I am very upset that he had asked me to go there first and then we agreed we would all go there and now I have been left out of the trip. My partner thinks he has done nothing wrong and is not sorry at all.
This is not the first time he has let me down and kept secrets. I am not seeing him or talking to him right now and have no plans to until he apologizes. Am I over reacting?
Sorry for long post!