I am in a difficult relationship with DM. I pretty much always have been. I am definitely the least favourite child and now that I am an adult it is always clear that I am not doing what she would expect of me.
The last few years have been challenging. DC has been diagnosed with ASD and DM is in complete and utter denial. She has refused to attend any meetings/ training/ grandparent help. DC is high functioning but struggles with anxiety to the point that school has been a challenge and he doesn't go a the moment. That is obviously my fault. Me and DP are shit parents which has caused ASD and anxiety. Common sense will tell you (her) that now he has to work all day between the hours of 9-3. Going out to see people, even children who are peer age would be wrong.
Shit really hit the fan this week when one of her friends found out the diagnosis because something went awry with my security settings on social media and I'd posted on a support group and all of my 'friends' could see. According to her I am selfish. It is 'all about me'. When I suggested that it her problem issue with my son she said she is not embarrassed about him but about me! I am degrading him in public. She will not hear that it is a mistake.
I know that this relationship is wrong and I should go NC but the reality is that I need the relationship to a degree because no one else has a relationship with DS to handle him and it is the only way I can ever take a break.
I just am so angry. She completely blanked me in public today and expects me to apologise. I called her a bitch when she said that I was the embarrassment.
Help. LIfe is tough enough with a child with extra needs without a parent making it worse.