Accepting that it’s over

[Thisneedstostop]

Why after a break up back in March, am I still missing him? He wasn’t an easy man to date and I never knew where I stood but I adored him. When he wanted me, he was amazing but he’d be distant with me at the drop of a hat. In time I became a shadow of who I used to be confidence wise. I never found out why he ended it, he just moved onto someone else without a further word.

I’ve kept busy, wrote letters (but not sent), exercised, read books but I still lust after him and want to be with him. How do I stop this endless cycle of wanting someone who no longer wants me?

Currently going through similar.
Mine decided to play me off against another women. Back and forth. He wanted me, then her, me then her. Blamed it on MH and having a breakdown.
In the end I found my dignity, wished him luck and told him to delete my number.
Caved yesterday and checked her Facebook. They have been dating 6 weeks and already playing happy families with his kids from a previous. Pics of her and his kids everywhere.
It hurts like hell but I feel more sorry for the kids now. What a train wreck.

Op, the best thing you can do is block & try to move on.

19 months later, I still have no answers after being ghosted at 4 months pregnant.

AngelicDarkness, i think that’s what happened although I didn’t realise it at the time it was happening. He’d chase OW, make progress and be distant with me, then not get further so chase me again. After several cycles of this I didn’t know if I was coming or going.

Torn between feeling contempt for the way he has treated me (and disgust) and sadness over missing him so much. I don’t know what is worse - thinking that he lied about his true feelings for me all along in order to use me or thinking that he genuinely cared and I’ve done something wrong.

Yep. Exactly how I feel.

Personally I'm on the 'He was confused as hell and didn't know what he wanted'. He'd broke it off with her, come back to me, told me he wanted me, she'd kicked off demanding to speak to him and it was after that he went all 'I don't know what I want' again.
I got a bouquet which he'd paid for the previous day pre 'I don't know what i want' so I suspect he is genuinely confused and in a rut.

But I can't live my life like that. Waiting, wishing. Hurts like hell but I deserve better. I deserve to be someones everything. I'm worth so much more. As are you.