so lonely

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married 10 years. I'm 30. 2 DC.
DH comes home everynight and puts the DC to sleep, I talk to him about my day, he never talks to me about his unless I ask, I'm sick of asking. if I don't say anything then he will sit in silence. it's always me who s starting the conversations never him.
I'm so lonely in my marriage, I have conversations with the bloody cat instead. I've brought this up sonmany times but he sees nothing wrong and for a few days he'll make an effort, after that back to nothing.
I'm so bored. what do I do?

I guess your choices are :

Leave

Tell him you are on the brink of separating and find ways to reconnect, possibly through couples counselling

Resign yourself to nothing changing and build a full life separate to his. Fill your hours with work, hobbies, friends, travel, volunteering or whatever will give you a sense of fun and purpose

i work part time, the rest of my life is involves the DC, I do get to see my friends on my own sometimes but they all have DC too and mostly we just see each other eith the DC as they're all the same age.
DH works til 8pm everynight so when he's home I'm desperate for a conversation and he's never bothrted.
I feel unwanted, i think I emotionally checked out of this relationship years ago.

Maybe he's just not a chatty person, but youve known him for ten years so you must have known this?
Maybe he's bored too?
You probably need a bit more excitement in your lives. Is there something you could do together, that needs talking about? Think back to the early days - what did you do that you both enjoyed?

He's the chattiest person I know, he doesn't shut up around people. He does talk to me but never feels the need to tell me anything about him or share anything it's just general shit like the football or news.
I Try and suggest days out or activities and he rarely wants to go Im sick of having to force him.
He was like this year's ago but I made the stupid mistake of believing love was enough and that I could change him.
my fault.
I wish I'd never married him in all honesty

Does he change at weekends or on holidays? Just that he could be genuinely tired.

If not he could be emotionally unavailable which is only apparent in intimate relationships, to everyone else he is a normal guy.

How old are the children? You are very young which is great for your future. I think we grow up at 27/28 which explains why dissatisfaction kicks in around 30.
Be aware of your loneliness in the marriage is the start of finding a solution.