Hi everyone, I'm a first time poster so here goes. I've been with my boyfriend a year and nine months and lived together 6. We knew each other a bit before we started hanging out more then fell head over heels in love and started seeing each other. Things were amazing for the first while, we talked for hours about hopes and dreams and thought each other were amazing. I spent all my time at his, kinda neglecting my own flat, which got messier and messier. We made plans for me to move in together on the condition I fixed my messy ways and built lots of Ikea furniture to house my massive amounts of sports/camping etc equipment and clothes. I got rid of a great deal of stuff but there was and still is shitloads .
Six months later and we're on the rocks. I know I've been neglecting the tidying and we've had big blowups and come really close to breaking up. He's sick of me and my clutter, even though I think I'm doing my best but it's clearly not good enough and is making him miserable.
Furthermore we've stopped having meaningful conversations with each other. He says he can't communicate with me and he's not interested in anything that goes on in my life like sports, expeditions, work, my books and academic stuff. All he does is work and can't talk to me about it as I wouldn't understand. He's very much a "STEM" guy and I've got a Master's in English literature. He's very direct and literal whilst I can be a bit more nuanced and flexible in my thoughts and ideas. I also change my mind sometimes about things and fail to do things, which he hates as he is very single minded and picks one path and follows it. Never changes his ideas or behavior.
We both really love each other but don't know how to go on. I can't stop crying and feel wretched and heartbroken. He's stressed and miserable with me and I'm on edge and anxious. This has never happened in a relationship for either of us and we don't know how to fix it. We are very different people with different habits and lives but we want to be together. He's the most clever, most beautiful and amazing person I've ever met and I don't want to lose him.