Is my husband cheating on me?

[Kissymissy21]

We have been married for 11 years. We have a 4 years old daughter. I had several health issues since childbirth and i took about 3 years to recover.

During this period, me and my husband had several issues. We had hardly been talking like we used to during these last 4 years. Our relationship became extremely formal during this time and also we had a lot of arguments all this time. Now things have come to a point where although there are no fights and arguments but the friendliness that was there between us has gone as well.

Due to work, my husband travelled a lot in the last couple of years. Recently, while he had been away on a work trip, I came across 2 packs of unopened condom packs. These packs were not bought from UK. Also it’s a different brand to what we normally use. They only sell it on amazon in UK and it’s definitely not bought from his amazon account as I checked the purchase history on his account.

The reason I am quite concerned and suspicious is due to the fact that we hardly had been sexually active (once in 2 to 3 months time and sometimes even more than that). Also, we already had a pack with 6 condoms left in it then why would he buy new ones and that also from a different country.

Recently, he had been to Romania and I have a feeling these packs were purchased from there. Am I worrying unnecessarily about all this? Also while he was in Romania i was abroad as well visiting my family. So why would he buy 2 packs especially when after he came back to UK I was going to be away for another month. It’s just making me go mad thinking about all of this. This product is of German origin (Masculan condoms)and one of the distributors that’s mentioned on the package is Romania. I am trying to find out when this was bought but the product gives info only about the expiry date (which is July 2022) but nothing about the manufacturing date. There is also a batch/ lot number on the box GV33303. But I have not been able to gather any information about the manufacturing date based on this.

These thoughts are worrying me 24/7. Can anyone please help? Am I worrying unnecessarily? Please help....

Kissymissy21 have you seen your DH since you first posted? How are things? Did you ask about the condons?

DavidBoviesnumber 1

He is coming back from his trip tonight. I am not planning to ask straight away as i am sure he will not tell the truth.

I am going to observe and see if his behavior has changed.

Thanks

That's a good idea, if you can keep a pokerface, I know I couldn't but that's just me. Everything I'm thinking is written all over my face.

I am not sure if can do a pokerface and especially for how long. Coz right now I am feeling very angry and frustrated at the same time.

Lets see how it goes.

Oh good lunch I really feel for you

Luck NOT lunch....FFS!

Unless your DH is the type who goes go Boots and says 'ooh, 3 for 2 on shower gel!', I would find it impossible to believe he by chance in a pharmacy saw a special offer on condoms and decided to stock up.

He bought them to use them. Sorry

He brought a new pack of 10 from his trip to
India and kept it at the same place along with the old ones.

I'd definitely ask what's going on. Keep an eye on if any are missing.

There will soon be a global shortage of rubber, with all the condoms he's buying !? And if you only both have sex, once every two or three months, he must be racking them up.

Why not use your energy in having a conversation with him, instead of searching for comparative condoms prices or out of dates dates.

I strongly suspect he will deny, deny, deny and carry on as usual, ' Whatever usual, is ).

The circumstantial evidence doesn't look good, and I also suspect your gut feeling instinctively surmises that he is cheating.

Your marriage and relationship, sadly, doesn't sound great.......

Do you really want to save it !?

Is it worth saving ?

My gut feeling on this is not great. You should ask him xx

I would be concerned that your h is using prostitutes in these different countries. Can you access his phone when he is home?

Masculan sounds male? I’ve not googled the brand

not sure in the point of asking him. It's not like he will be honest and say yeah, I've been seeing hookers abroad or whatever. He'll just lie.

Snoop through his phone.

He mentioned earlier some time back that he wants us to improve our relationship and be like we used to 5 years back.

Not sure if he is telling the truth and trying to change or just that he is happy with his other relationships. Totally confused.

What other relationships do you mean OP?

Sorry for the personal question, but have you had sex with condoms since he's been back from Romania? i.e since he's had these condoms? Obviously you buy condoms to use; perhaps he was planning to use them with you (as he will doubtless say is the case), or perhaps he entertained to idea of using them with someone else. If he's bought/opened other packs to use since he's had these you have to ask why that would be... guilty conscience perhaps? But if he hasn't and he hasn't tried to hide them, I don't know.

Either way if the packets are all unopened... perhaps he did have designs to use them. If they were open there would be more to suggest that he actually had.

I'd wait until you hear what he has to say to be honest.

Reported you ‘greg’