Just don't want it

[WinkyWinkola]

I just don't want sex. DH and I have had sex once in seven weeks since DD was born. I feel like everyone wants a piece of me at the moment. I'm still bfing DS and DD too. I just want to be left alone to sleep in bed!

Our sex life was never fantastic after the first year and he says he's resigned himself to never having sex again. I think he's being dramatic but sometimes he shows me real anger about it despite my explanations. This anger doesn't endear me to him one bit.

Is it normal just to not want nookie at this time? I don't think I can face lying back and thinking of England.

Completly normal, I went to the docs about it as I felt bad for my dh-he said it was the biggest reason women come to see him other than weight issues. his advice was simple, give it time talk about it honestly-he even offered to talk to dh about it and that its all about give and take, sometime you might not feel like it but have a go anyway-the more you do it the more you want etc.

Hells bells, Winky! You have a seven week old baby? And your dh thinks he should have had sex more than once?!

As I recall, with all three of mine, we did the deed once just before the six-week check (carefully!) just to make sure things were OK. Then I doubt we got to five times before 3 months. Or even 6!

He's being an idiot. The more he hassles you, the less you're going to feel like it and the more you're going to resent him. he should just be biting his tongue and waiting patiently until you are ready.

Don't worry. It is not normal to be a shag-rabbit after 7 weeks!

It is completely normal.
I remember feeling exactly how you do - I just felt like my body was being used to satisfy others' needs. I was really down about it too but it does pass.
You both need to give it time.