Bf of about 9 months, things have been great all that time, nothing to suggest anything was wrong then on Saturday he text saying we need to talk, we spoke on the phone and he said he didn't feel like I was being open enough with him or talk to him about my problems we spoke about it everything seemed fine, carried on as normal then yesterday he text me saying something like "i need some space to clear my head im so broken at the moment and i just need time to find myself" i was very upset, mostly because it was on text he didn't even have the balls to speak to me in person. I just replied ok take time im here if you want to talk. Then he said "this isnt easy for me either your great ive just ignored my own problems for too long and need to focus on me" so i just said I understand. And left it there.
Then he text me this morning saying "just thought you would want to know, I've been the doctor and my chest fucked i need to quit smoking and they upped my anti depressants" i said ok well I'm here if you to talk or want support quitting, hope you feel better soon. He said "its going to take a lot longer than that to feel better this time round"
Here's why im confused, i never replied to his last text because half of me wants to ignore him, half of me wants to text back something along the lines of you dumped me BY TEXT out of the blue and now you want my sympathy? Fuck yourself.
and the other half want to be nice and understanding and try and support Him but i dont know how to do that. If he wants to break up fine but why then text me with your problems?? Im so confused about where this is coming from. He starts a new job monday so i dont know if its all related and he needs time or if im better just blocking and walking away because I can't handle being picked up and dropped willy nilly at the moment.
Do you think i should walk away or try and support him?