Advice for newly single mum

[Brightsun]

I'm finally free from EX P domestic violence was rife in the relationship -attacks on me all the time. A horrible cycle, which I'm breaking free from finally.
Has anyone got any tips on how to survive emotionally? I've started to over eat and over spend already. The evenings are the worst. I get bored and am in a new area so no friends. Two young children mean I can't go out in the evenings.
I don't want this to sound like a pity post because I'm actually so happy. But there are times when I cry, because I can't believe I had so little confidence in myself and let him treat me so badly.

Thank you

Hi OP totally understand where you are coming from.

Have you consider a hobby? Crafts anything like that? I took up sewing, bought myself a cheap sewing machine and started making curtains, throws etc and started up my house then moved onto making myself clothes.

Have you had counselling? I would recommend getting a decent therapist, good luck and well done for getting away.

Thank you for the ideas!

I'm not much of a crafty person but I have become a little green-fingered recently. So that's something I could invest my time in.
Someone else had mentioned getting counselling but I have no idea where to start? I could do with talking to someone.

Have a plan for each evening.
When first single I got a few exercise dvds, did some baking.
Eventually I went on to do a course, the most of which I did from home.
It’s been 5 years now and I also begrudge people coming round to visit of an evening!

I would recommend finding a way to get babysitting in the evenings for your children so you can get out of the house, and have real adult time - whether a class, exercise, dinner with friends, lounging in the local pub.

As a single mum the one most important thing for me was re-finding the woman in me that wasn’t just a mum, and letting go of being there for my child 24/7.