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Am I being selfish?

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MrsBrown28 · 17/06/2018 23:32

Yeah basically that. I'm desperate for baby no.3. It's all I think about. We have an 11 year old and a 5 year old already who of course are my absolute world. We both work full time. We're comfortable (financially) and we have our home, good supportive families. I'm 29 my husband is 30 and I just think things are so good at the moment that I'd love to add to our family. My husband started out saying nope never gonna happen so I had resigned myself to the fact we weren't going to have anymore. More recently a family member found out she was pregnant and my husband then said "we could have another one day" knowing I would LOVE another which of course sent my mind into over drive and now it's all I think about. Then my husband said not for another 10+ years.... erm I don't think so punk I'm not having a baby into my 40s. Then he said maybe in a few years. I feel like he's playing with my head knowing how much I want it. When we had our oldest I felt like we had just got a bit of freedom back and then we decided to start all over again when We has our youngest. I don't wanna do that again, i want another but not in 3/4 years when our kids are off hand and we have our life back. I know when our circle of friends start having children my husband will feel differently but I don't wanna wait. I don't understand what we need to wait for!? Am I being unreasonable in not wanting to wait? I just don't want to spend my entire life bringing up children as we started so young I don't want massive age gaps so they have nothing in common etc every time I even begin to mention a baby he just says "not yet" or "I'm just not ready yet" Confused I don't understand what's not to be ready about we already have everything

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MrsBrown28 · 18/06/2018 20:09

@RestingBitchFaced exactly. All I want is to heard out. I know that if we had another we would never look at that child and say "I wish we never had that baby" but we could very well look back and say I wish we'd had another and it be too late. I'm so annoyed because I accepted he didn't want another and now o feel like he has given me false hope saying we could have another

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