Im trying to be nice!

[shakingmyheadathim]

It’s Father’s Day and he’s a great Daddy and I’m trying to be nice to him... but he’s so bloody incapable.
Asked him to put a load of washing on, we have a big 10kg drum but if you fill it to the brim then you need to use 2 tablets instead of 1. I have reiterated this point at least 10 times.
I’ve gone to hang the washing out and it STINKS. Almost like onions and sweat. I asked how many washing tablets he used. 1. I asked if he used fabric conditioner. No.
I’ve had to do the whole load again and we are off on holiday in a few hours so god knows how we are going to dry it all.
I asked him to squirt some toilet duck around the loo rims. Somehow he’s squirted it around the rim but also all under the toilet seat and it’s squirted out of the sides and up all of the walls. I’ve had to clean it all up.
Does he purposely do jobs badly so I don’t ask again? Or does he just not give a shit about doing them properly?
I really really don’t understand? 🤷‍♀️
It’s not as if he’ll get away with it? If the washing stinks I’ll notice, if there’s toilet duck up the wall then I’ll notice.
It’s like a game that he’s trying to get away with?

I don’t doubt it was an accident.
But it was an accident due to him being careless and doing a job haphazardly. Still not actually left for holiday as the washing is still wet and I’m trying to pack everything for everyone singlehandedly.
Luckily it’s only just over an hour away. At least we’ll get there by bed time!

And what is he doing while you're trying to pack everything for everyone?

In fairness to him he is doing stuff.
But stuff that doesn’t need doing right now and doesn’t help the issue of packing!
He’s putting salt in the dishwasher and sorting the recycling.
But he’ll only do any jobs I give him haphazardly that I may as well do them myself as this morning has proven!
Either that or he’ll do the jobs but need me to answer a question every 5 seconds.
I was going to ask him to sort the in car DVD players, but no doubt he’ll not know which one goes on which side, or what dvds to choose to take, or where the headphones are!

shaking

re your comments in quote marks:-

"Does he purposely do jobs badly so I don’t ask again?"
Yes

"Or does he just not give a shit about doing them properly?"
Yes

"I really really don’t understand?"
Its really not that hard to understand his MO here. He sees those tasks as your job, not his so he does them so badly that you will never ask him to do those again.

You may well love this man (well now at least) but this could quickly turn into resentment. You have children in this relationship, do you really want a manchild as well?.

How is he a great dad exactly, why did you write that of him?. He simply causes you more work. Women in actually poor relationships often write the he's a good dad comment or versions thereof when they can think of nothing positive themselves to write about their man. You have not stated he is for instance a great DH or partner have you?. What does that tell you about him?.

He cannot be bothered and is taking the piss here big time. I would not want to go on holiday with him.

I would suggest you read this article as well:-

mustbethistalltoride.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/

His actions show a lack of care for you and your household and not just that either. It shows a lack of respect for you as a person.