I don't know what to do...

[GodsAngel]

Hi everyone I'm new to mumsnet! And I'm having my first baby in December! I've never been happy about it but for some reason I feel unhappy with my partner. We're having mad problems right now and the arguments are becoming daily, He makes me cry every day, he doesn't seem to care if he was in our baby's life or not and it really breaks my heart. I dont know what to do cause I dont want our baby to grow up without their dad but he's doing nothing for them he has no job. He's always drinking , he's always adding girls on social media?

Please I'd love any advice on what I should do !

Why would it grow up without a Dad just because you were no longer together? A parent doesn't have to live in the same house to be a parent.

unfortunately when the relationship breaks up alot of men do fuck off aswell.

They're not going to grow up without a dad but the way my partner is speaking to me he says he wouldn't care if he wasn't in their life ? I'm not force him to be a dad that's his job, I will try with all my heart to beg him to be a dad but if he doesn't want to then I'm not going force him

Its sad but it is true I have seen a lot of men do it

He makes you cry on a daily basis.
He isn't working - and not looking?
He does nothing?
He drinks.
He adds other women on his social media.

And you're begging him. You can't change someone else. You can't make him become a different person.

He's not even behaving like a partner, much less a potential father.

Biology doesn't make a parent, actions do. There are plenty of other ways for your child to have male role models (emphasis on role model).

If you're only putting up with this because you're desperate for your child to have a dad, I think you need to reevaluate what it is you want, and what is in your and your child's long term best interests. This isn't it.

Read him riot act, if no change, kick him to the kerb and make a good life for you and baby. Do the right thing.