Just wanted some advice/opinons on something that happened in my family which caused a major rift.
December 2016 (the day before christmas eve) I had a knock on my door. I am a single mum to 3 kids and pregnant with the 4th at the time. It was a social worker who told me a referal had been made about me. I was obviously in shock at the unannounced visit and she demanded to come in to see my children. she asked me a few questions, seen my children were fine, then told me she was a duty social worker and that it would be passed onto a main social worker who would come to make an assessment. about 3 weeks later in January the main social worker came round and explained the referal. apparently someone had reported me and made up alot of lies. a completely malicious referral. i was really devastated as i couldnt understand who would do that to me. I have no enemies and hadnt fallen out with anyone and ofcourse the referral was anonymous!
Anyway everyone in my family suggested it was my ex partner and father of my kids as he was currently absent from their lives and seemed like the only person who could have possibly done it. the social worker said she would make her enquiries and get back to me. during this time i spoke with the family rights group for advice, they suggested i asked for a copy of the referral so i could know exactly what was said about me. i did this and to my complete surprised when the referal came back it stated that a woman had called reporting concerns for her husbands sisters children i have 3 brothers, one is 18 (was 16 at the time) one is gay which leaves the last one who has a long term partner and a child. obviously i immediately thought it was her and spoke with me mum and brother about it. they both said it couldnt possibly be here and that it must be my sister "framing" her. i should at this point say that my brothers partner and my sister were very close but had a falling out a year before that. so that was there reason for believing she had "framed" her. they convinced me it was my sister and as i wasnt thinking straight at the time i agreed with them and stopped speaking to my sister. I would speak about what had happened with my mum as it really upset me and she would keep telling me to forget it and to get over it. my brother had also said the same. i started to find it odd that none of them wanted me to talk about it. it was still very fresh. i also found it strange that my brothers partner hadnt been told what had happened. what the report had stated. there was also alot in the report the the SW hadnt mentioned to me, im guessing she didnt think the other imformation given was relevant.
About a month later my sister calls me and explains that it was not her and that she wants to get to the bottom of it, as she was the only one who actually wanted to talk about it whilst the others wanted me to never mention it again i decided to hear her out. she was very desperate to prove it wasnt her, gave me her phone bills, said she would pay for everyone to take a lie detector (not on tv just that she would pay for one.) but my brother and his partner and my mum refused. at this point and im not proud of this but me and my sister tried to access my brothers partners phone bill online. it didnt work and she got a notification to say it had happened. anyway a few days later my mum and brother showed up at my door threanening to call the police on me over it and said "who will have your kids when we call them."
As you can imagine i havent spoken to then since this and this has caused a huge devide in my family with my mum and brother on one side and my sister on the other. i cut my mum and brother off completely and havent spoken to them in over a year. recently i spoke to my dad on the phobe and he was going on about "bringing the family back together" and that my kids are "missing out" and how i should apologised(?!) for the falling out. i dont have anything to apologised for, as i tried to get to the bottom of who reported me as anyone would do. Do you think i was right to go NC in this situation? The case was closed as it was proven to be malicious but it took a very long time.