Cheating and pregnant

[Kerryberry34]

So 3 years ago when my dd was a few months old I found out my dp was having a sort of relationship with a work friend from the messages I read and speaking to her they had kissed but nothing further altho they had made plans of course I left immediately and he spent 6 months winning me back I felt like i owed it to our daughter so after being back together nearly a year he convinced me to have another baby and we got engaged I really believed he had changed... a week before in I found out I was pregnant I found more messages to several women none sexual but asking where they single etc again i through him out and then i found out I was expecting I’m now near my due date he’s talked me round again but i this time I’m finding it harder to forgive on one hand I don’t want to be on my own with our 2 children but on the other I don’t know if I love him anymore my family hate him my friends think I’m nuts and I spend every day crying and worrying! Any advice???

Run!!

It's not so hard on your own with kids at all.

You are in a very vulnerable position atm and that’s why it’s so hard to make a decision.

I agree. You gave him a second chance and he blew it. It will be near impossible for him to ever regain your trust (let alone your love). The fact he (nearly) cheated twice, each time when you were at your most vulnerable place, shows he has no respect for you nor does he have any intention to be faithful.

I wouod take the long view. Have your baby whilst you are in your home. Take whatever time you need to recover. Organise yourself so you have the right support network around you, finances organised etc... then leave him.

I’m pretty sure it will easier to deal with daily life with two young dcs in your own (and hopefully support from family and friends) than whilst still living with him and constantly wondering what he is up to.

I know you are both right I’m hoping once the baby comes il be stronger and making my decision easier. I also know he won’t go easily and he will torture me to take him back he won’t want to be without the kids and he hasn’t got a support network either no family or real friends

Er, the women he’s been stroking his ego with can be his support network. This is who he is and he’s banking on second chances so he can carry on being who he is, while having the comforts of a relationship. If he was that bothered by ‘losing’ his family he wouldn’t have played Russian roulette by being a creep.

That’s exactly how I feel about him
He is a creep constantly looking for attention I make excuses for him his mum abandoned him as a baby his father left when he was a toddler he has brothers and sisters all over the place. I’m from a good family I have a decent job the house we live in is rented but it’s mine not his maybe I need to just bite the bullet and ask him to go but then he tortures me 100s of texts and calls showing up at work. How did I end up like this?