2 months after Miscarriage & I’ve been dumped

[FuckItPassMeTheWine]

Just that really , he told me hadn’t been happy, that I don’t listen to what he says & sometimes When I’ve been cooking for us I can’t do two things at once so i forget.

We’ve been together just over a year and when i caught pregnant (accidentally - condom failiure ) I was shocked but undecided , he advised he wasn’t ready . I’m 35 and he is 25 . I wanted us to both be ready and wanting a baby but as it happened I had a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks , I had to go for abortion to “clear everything out” and he refused to see me the night before the procedure despite us agreeing that and said he would just come to see me after the op. I really struggled with that and really sobbed for days.

I feel broken and am struggling to see how I go can get through this . Just looking for a hand hold really xx

Oh you poor thing. Sending hugs. Age gap relationships can be so difficult. You will get through this though Xx

I really feel for you.sounds like you’re having a truly terrible time.He obviously isn’t a very good person to let you go through that alone and although you are so hurt and upset now with time you will heal.Do you have family/friends that are there to support you? Thinking of you

do you mean a D&C OP

I think you've had a lucky escape lovely .. be kind to yourself and move on from him

I'm so sorry for your loss OP, but he couldn't reasonably stay with you because of this, if unhappy.
I hope you're ok

Thank you so much all for taking the time to respond , it really means a lot . I just can’t believe I’m single. I haven’t contacted him since the phone conversation and I won’t do but I’m truly gut wretched by it all. :(

The age gap, the fact you wanted babies and he didn't and being unhappy after just a year of dating means it was unlikely to last. He's been honest and left, poor timing but he shouldn't have to stay unhappy as life is too short.

So sorry, OP. I agree you’ve had a lucky escape but it still hurts.

I never said he should have stayed with me and I wouldn’t want to force anyone to be with me when they aren’t happy . I just said I was looking for a handhold and explained my circumstances . I don’t have anyone really in RL to talk to so here I am , just writing it down helps tbh

Thanks @mimibunz xx

Oh dear, you poor soul! Everything will seem very much worse just now because your hormones will be dancing the fandango and your emotions will be haywire.

Be gentle and kind to yourself, try to stay positive and to look ahead. I hope you will start to feel better soon.

Eventually, I think you will come to see that he wasn't right for you, and that you've had a lucky escape.

what a horrible few months you’ve had. Virtual hug and hopes it will get better for you.,

Sounds like your well rid, he sounds selfish. Take time to recover and heal and take care of yourself 💐

Here’s a handhold from me xx

And me. What a shitbag

I meant the ex - not you!!

Well done you escaped the clutches of a man child! I was also dating a man/boy younger than me (by 7 years). I thought he was the one too, but when it came down to real life happening he went running for the hills. I went through a family bereavement and became depressed.

At the time I thought my world was over, I wanted a baby so badly and thought my time was up as I was 33. Anyway fast forward 2 years, I met a real man and now have month old baby girl.

It may seem terrible now but trust me, him leaving is the best thing that could happen to you. Once you get over him you will meet the right man and start planning a family and your future.

Try to plan some nice things to do over the coming weeks to take your mind off things. A spa day with friends, meals out, girlie film nights in. Good luck xx

Oh OP what a horrible emotional rollercoaster ride you’re on. I agree he sounds immature. Take care and be gentle with yourself.

@TwinkleMerrick thanks so much for sharing , I really appreciate it xx

And thanks everyone who has commented with support , it really does mean so much .

The feeling of loss comes over in waves and I’m finding it hard to breathe at times (never had the feeling before ) is it a panic attack? Xx

I wouldn't have expected him to stay around after he told you he didn't want the baby to be honest. I'm sorry for your loss x

Hey, no probs. Always good to hear other people have made it through and there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Panic attacks can come in all shapes and forms, I had heart palpitations and would go all dizzy. I used an app on my phone to help focus my breathing. I can't remember what it was called but there are all sorts of things you can download to help when you feel an attack coming on.

If it continues then go to your gp, they can refer you for CBT therapy. Don't suffer in silence xx

@fmlgirl he always said he wanted children with me but not just yet. We’d planned names in the past so it wasn’t like it was never on the cards Ifyswim

All - just want to say thank you for messages of support , I really feel so much better today and just think fuck him 😬

This forum helped so much ❤️❤️❤️

Glad your feeling more positive , don't look back 🙂