I've decided I can't be with my partner of 6 years on and off, anymore. I feel selfish for making this decision as we have 3 kids to think about. But after some unforgivable things we've done to each other, I can't get over it all and I think it's best we both move on from our relationship. We have never cheated, but it's things that have happened while we were apart for a short time and just general disrespect on his part. I've tried and tried again to feel comfortable, positive and secure in our relationship but I just can't and these feelings eat away at me everyday. Our kids are only young and thankfully our youngest two won't remember much if any of this. I want to break up on a mutual ground and remain civil with each other and keep in regular contact but only regarding the kids. The thing is, when we've split in the past (we only had 1 child then), he completely distances himself and didn't see our daughter at all the whole few months until we got back together again. I feel he would do the same and my kids would ask after him and be heartbroken if he did the same all over again. Has anyone managed to end a relationship but make an agreement and both stick to it? Thanks