I'd love some outside perspectives on this please

[HelpPlease876]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years now. As most relationships go, it started well but moved very fast as we moved in together after a few months. All is well but we find ourselves arguing over a lot of things that I see as nothing and things that we shouldn't be arguing about.

Now my issue is that when I go out from time to time (majority of the time to my cousins to play FIFA e.g yesterday) I sometimes don't respond to her calls and texts cause I'm just in that moment of chillin with friends/family.

Her interpretation of this is that I don't care, I'm arrogant for wanting to text/call back when I want to or I don't love her, which is clearly not the case because I wouldn't be with her but I want to know why does she think that way?
Now before anyone says 'just ask her', I already have and her response was 'it's just the normal thing to do, if you care about someone you should want to talk to them' ect.
I do care, I do love her, I do appreciate her and me not texting back/calling for a few hours doesn't change that So what's the problem?

I’d run away quickly.

She sounds like a manipulator. Your time away from her, is as important, if not more so than your time with her.

She won’t change. You don’t need a life of being continually guilt tripped

I know she won't change and I won't either which is why we always bump heads when the situation arises.

Leaving is clearly the easy way out which had crossed my mind but I'm still here.

I don't think she is a manipulator at all.

I do think she is very needy, which is to me personally is a very off-putting feature. It is the opposite of being deliberately manipulative because she cannot help it at all. It is compulsive because she is damaged.

Essentially she has a huge hole in her, almost certainly from her upbringing and which will NEVER be filled by anything you do to her because it is something broken in her. She will have been given all sorts of silly ideas growing up that certain behaviours mean affection - again almost certainly from her equally damaged parents - but in fact even if you jumped through all her sad hoops it would never make her feel any better about herself.

She needs some really intensive therapy to work on her low self-esteem. It is up to you whether you want to support her or not. It must not be you providing the therapy in any way at all - you are her partner not her saviour. Your job is to support her, if that is what you want to do.

If it was me in a relationship with her, I would want to see that she is recognising that her neediness begins and ends with herself, and only she can do anything about it.

I couldn't be bothered with this. If you can't go out with your friends without being sent constant messages, then you might as well not go out. Which, presumably, is her intention.

Unless there's a massive drip feed, eg you're out every night of the week and you have children together, then I'd move out.

HelpPlease, this isn't a girlfriend problem so much as a neediness problem. I ended things with a bloke who was always bloody texting me and expecting responses when I was doing other stuff. He was lacking in confidence and needed constant attention.

He lasted about a week. I can't bear being smothered. YMMV, but unless you're prepared to constantly reassure her you may have to call it a day