Refusing contact

[Pixikitten0123]

My daughter is refusing to go with her father this weekend, I’ve tried everything to no avail. She’s point blank refusing to go.

How old is she?

Probably need a bit more info.
But if she's over 13/14 then there's not much you can do.
What are her reasons for not wanting to go?
Is it just because she wants to spend time with her friends?

She’s 9 and angry that her father didn’t get her anything for her birthday

Can you ask your solicitor? As I understand it you still have to encourage them to go at that age but when they are a bit older you can't force them...interested to know what happens as I expect this will happen to me too.

Don't send her ! Try to encourage her but if she is adamant then don't let your x
Know
How she is feeling
And try and encourage him
To make this up
To
Her

Try to encourage her to go.

Speak to x and make sure he gets her a
Present and then drop it in conversation to daughter and then see
How she feels

It is better for your daughters
Emotional well-being to see her dad but he should know she is upset and he has
Let her down.

Is he normally a dick/useless?

Obviously I don't know if it is because her father is selfish or thoughtless (or even short of cash), but it seems a shame for a child to give not getting a present as a reason for not seeing a parent. At one time my children's father had nothing, and could give them nothing, but that didn't stop them having visits and they have maintained a good relationship. Children need to know that it isn't always about material things. Of course, the lack of a present might just be an excuse if they don't get on.

Its sounds like she's being a little bit of a diva here. Its not great he didn't buy her a present, of course. But, spitting her dummy out cos she didn't get a gift shouldn't be pandered to.

Make sure you tell your ex about it though, and its up to him to make it up to her. Hopefully he won't forget again either.

She's only 9! I don't think it's divaish to expect a birthday present from your dad
There must be much more however to it than just this. It wouldn't be hard for a caring dad to say oops sorry I forgot, we'll go and get you a present together next time I see you. And then she'd want to go.

It depends if the lack of present is something in a long string of events where she's being ignored,neglected and forgotten about or a genuine one off due to other stressors or financial problems.

I think I'd turn it over to him. Tell him she doesn't want to come and how hurt she was that he forgot her birthday (or remembered but gave no gift). Tell him he needs to talk to her and mend some bridges.

Is he perhaps waiting until the weekend to "do" her birthday with her?