Hi, I've been quite anxious over all this. I met a guy I really liked and started seeing him, everything was pretty great. I knew he had fond drugs before. But he told me he had stopped. Well - not so much. Pretty soon I started to question this as his behavior and moods seemed to be changing a lot. I probably knew but wanted to believe him. In a few weeks he told me he was about to get coke, because of he was upset over a tragedy in the family. I tried to take him out of it - of course in vain. So he got coke and got drunk too using it. Ok then. Well he did the same in just two days time. He then admitted to me that he has a coke habit. Which I now find quite surprising after having read threads here about users, how they are liars and in denial etc. his behavior was so strange but I now realize it was all because of coke... and he prob did it a lot more than "just" weekends. He said he can't go without coke. He also drinks way too much. He was acting all paranoid while - I think he must have been then - on it. And blaming me for sleeping with pretty much everyone I met, for example. He also threatened to kill himself. That really scared me. He also said that night that our relationship or what should I call it, wasn't going to work (afterwards I knew, because of his habit/addiction). After finding out he was still 'ok' and alive the next day, I pretty much stopped being intouch with him. I can't help still being worried about him. But what can I do - what should I do?? Tell his family? I think they already know... but now he's also seeing someone else. And I'm wondering if I should warn this girl he's dating now, or not. It's not my business really anymore. But I've since found out he not only gets paranoid but also aggressive while on coke. Should I just let this girl find out for herself? What if he's not 'honest' (yes right, he lied about it all to begin with, but I'm in a weird way about grateful he admitted it to me, and it hurts/hurt a lot, but in the long run would have been a disaster) like he was to means denies everything and this girl believes him and possibly gets hurt - more ways than one in worst scenario? I've kept my mouth shut for now. What would you do if anything?
Bloody men...