Just been dumped

[SadTimesForAll]

6 months today since our first date. Had plans to see eachother tomorrow, spoke to him this morning as normal. Get a text (yes text!!!!) off him at lunch time. Big long text about now he can’t move the relationship on, he’s sorry but can’t help how he feels, doesn’t want to be a part of my sons life (I have never once mentioned him meeting my son yet) blah blah blah. I promptly burst into tears in the middle of the office and had to leave work.

I know it’s only been 6 months and I know worse things happen but I’m so, so upset. I really liked him and saw a future. But I know he wasn’t right for me, we only saw eachother once a week, he’s busy with work/hobbies etc, he never instigated dates it was always me... but god it hurts so much. His text is basically word for word the same as the phone call I had with my previous boyfriend when he ended things with me. What is wrong with me? Why do men keep doing this to me.

Anyway I sound very woe is me right now but I am so sad, this feels crap

He's married, dear.

I’m sorry, it hurts - and it’s so raw.

I’m in a minority but I think text is good - I would HATE to do it in person, at least you aren’t showing them your emotions!
I was dumped after 15 months by text, at work - and when I was abroad too, so no chance to go and cry on a friend’s shoulder. I pointed all that out to him, and he apologised and said that he hadn’t know how / what / when to say it - and just suddenly gathered the courage. He was a nice guy, and though the timing was shitty it wasn’t malicious.

From the outside...
The fundamental reason that people split, is that the spark just isn’t there. Nobody’s fault - “I’m just that that into you”.
If someone has a child, it’s far easier to say that’s not going to work for them, than actually say “this isn’t right for me”.
Don’t get hung up on the child comment, it’s not the reason.