Met a guy but he’s slept with my staff

[Overreacting1]

So long story in a nutshell long since separated with my long term partner not met anyone since him until last week when I went out from work and ended up in the local pubs to the office met a great guy we danced had a little kiss and he was the perfect gent and put me in a cab home, he managed to track me down and get me his number the next day so we had a few messages and he seems great this is where the but comes....
Because he’s local to my work I’ve found out he’s definitely slept with at least one girl from my office and I’m not sure if that’s the only one it’s a small place and everyone seems to sleep with each other...
Not so much a big deal I can hear you saying but I’m the boss the managing director and obviously need to steer clear of gossip etc I have a job to do and need to be respected I’m concerned that by going on a date with this guy it’ll bring stuff into work that I do not want I pride myself on been pretty private at work and don’t want people talking about my private life or gossiping that I’m dating someone they’ve slept with...
So I’ve stopped messaging him back but am a little gutted he seemed lovely I’m not sure wether I’m overthinking it or protecting my career

Imo you're better off staying away.

I would stay clear.

In my opinion it's a big deal. He has slept with at least one of your staff and maybe more and you don't know for sure and cannot ask him. I think he sounds like he sleeps with people easily which is his prerogative but how do you know that he considers that he's ''met somebody''. He could be think ''god it's mad ted soon i'll have slept with all the women at the badger and beetroot.

Probably right not the answer I wanted but right !

So hard to meet decent guys when your a single mum and work full time not that I need one but you know sometimes it’d be nice

I'd avoid the whole thing. Shagging around your office just because it's local? Lovely.

Sorry :( if you'd been together a year or so and just found out I'd maybe think differently but do you need all this stress?

I’d say don’t go there

Nope.. do not go there OP...

It could be awkward if you take him to the firms Christmas do.

I don't see the problem tbh.

If you think he might be a user, then fair enough, treat with serious caution.

But - you think he's slept with someone else at work - what's the problem? Let them fucking gossip. It's none of their business who you date.

If you like him, who on earth not?

I'm with everyone else I'm afraid. It's a recipe for disaster.

Maybe try internet dating (respectable sites, not the likes of Tinder) and try to meet someone where they're not as local as frequenting the same pub where your staff hang out?

It could be awkward if you take him to the firms Christmas do.

Only if you make it awkward. Every time we go to a wedding or big do, if it's DP's friends I know there are women there he's slept with, if it's my friends, vice versa. It's not a problem - why should it be? We're adults.