Okay hi all new to this sort of thing on MN so please bare with me
So I feel as if nothing I do for my gf is good enough I feel inadequate and I also feel sexually frustrated. we have been together now just over a year.
We met on a night out when I was back home from working abroad. 6 months into the relationship I decided long distance wasn’t going to work for me. So left my job to move back to the U.K to be with her. The past three month I have had to work away on a 10 days on 3 days of routine. Every moment I have had spare its spent taking her out to dinner moves weekends away weekends in with a takeaway Netflix and chill and all that. Recently say about a month ago I surprised her with a additional little visit. As she had been under a lot of pressure from work and felt she could do with a bit of cheering up. So went to see her took her out had a good day out at the beach got in from the beach. She says I’m horny so I was like okay then let’s go to the room she said no I want to masturbiate alone. I think okay maybe she doesn’t want intercourse and just oral as we have done before loads of time but no she wanted to use her toy( she turned and said don’t worry I’ll get you off later. So I was like okay then how ever this didn’t happen and hasn’t happened for a while despite me trying every weekend I was back I would be lucky to have sex once with her but lately I haven’t had any form of sexual stimulation from her in over a month despite her saying she is horny and want me and loves my body so on and so forth so any help with this bit would be great.
As with every thing I do not being good enough from leaving really good job and job progression to not being fast enough at doing housework like dishes cooking etc. To not looking over things she has asked me to do despite the fact I am doing 14 hour shifts and she has a basic week of 20 hours yet when I have asked her to do something and she forgets to I’m like it’s fine I will deal with it tomorrow despite having the time to but all I get is back handed complement and the op you not done that or I would have don’t it this way instead