1st date in 15 minutes help!

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I've come over all dizzy
I'm ready to go and I'm scared lol

I've been single 5 months but it feels new because we only stopped talking a month or so ago as he got nasty I had to block
He was an abusive ass

I went on old for a laugh and started talking to a really nice guy anyway, we are off for a drink and first meet tonight! In 15 mins arrgh

Any tips? Feel so out of practise lol

Oh come on, you've only had a drink with him and now he wants a weekend away? Tell him to get lost!

And you say you've talked about sex a lot... you didn't know him then and hadn't met him... what if you didn't like him and you'd told him private things about yourself? Do you want a bloke who'll do that anyway?

If you want to spend the weekend in bed and not see him again, then go ahead - sorry, but he just wants a shag.

i would say yes to comedy club and no to hotel. see how it goes on the sunday lunch. if you have a nice time on saturday, then see him sunday. but otherwise it's a lot of time to spend together when you don't really know each other.

I actually don't think he does want just a shag. I mean maybe he does but I don't think it's just that.

I just meant we've spoken a lot and been quite open that's all

It's all felt normal and relaxed for me and when we met there was def a spark

Yeah maybe he does just want a shag. He did imply he goes on lots of dates 🤔x

It's easy to create a false sense of intimacy online. But you don't really know this guy: you know his messaging persona. Easy to mirror you and appear to be on the same page.

It wouldn't be a weekend in bed trust me ! We are doing a meal and comedy club and have plans the Sunday
I'm adamant I wouldn't sleep with him lol so I was just asking if it was a good idea
But I think I'll say I'll drive
Go to the meal and comedy club and then maybe still do the Sunday x

Yeah that's very true actually
I'm just trying to be careful and until now no red flags
I don't want my ex who was really really horrid to taint it
I'm trying hard to move on but also keep my wits about me
I'm messaging him now to say no to the hotel xz

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Fully noted x

Any update OP?

OP I'm afraid he was angling for a shag. Urgh. Bloody men