My mil is smothering me a bit and it’s me anxious/depressed. She wants to see us and the new twins constantly. I appreciate she is very excited and a doting grandma but she is also hard work - if we see her on the weekend she messages on monday morning asking how we all slept and an update on her day. I used to feel obliged to update her on my day but I don’t know. I don’t want her to know what I’m up to every minute of the day.
She called over unanounced the other week because we hadn’t been to see her - I’d been busy with my mum because she works in a school and off for half term. She sat down on our sofa and told me to go and run errands as she was available to look after my babies. I didn’t have anything to do and wanted a relaxing afternoon at home - I felt like she was forcing me out of my own house. My dh told her not to call over unanounced and she agreed not to but I don’t trust her. I think I’m just going to have to be blunt with her if it happens again and say that I’m on my way out. She regularly texts my husband but he just ignores her - I used to think this was cruel but I understand now.
It’s making me anxious and tired.