Instagram

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Perspective please ladies

Instagram

Do your OH continue to follow random girls on Instagram

He doesn't like any photos really just follows
He is a bit of a social media klutz he didn't even know how to make an Instagram story and never has

He is pretty private with his Instagram too doesn't like me uploading photos of us together and he doesn't post any of me just his kind of man things

On the flip side his family friends etc know about me and I've met a few of them

It just makes me feel insecure

I called him out on this in the early days of our relationship and he said of course it's innocent and hates the thought that I'm questioning his integrity and his private life (me) is his private life and something he likes to keep for himself

I don't think he even does it intentionally but it drives me nuts

Also don't want him to think I'm snooping it just is there on the following tab for me to see

Some of my girl friends say it is perfectly normal some say not

Confused and just hoping this is me being silly

Please help

I wouldn’t be happy at following random girls, if it was just their private accounts. Different if their page is dedicated to a hobbie etc likes etc. The not uploading pics of you together is a bit suss. He doesn’t have to go overboard but also equally shouldn’t be actively hiding you and your relationship.

This is what I thought but then he said he has always been that way

He follows both men and women so it kind of jades my perspective and doesn't like girls photos

He is amazing when we're together fab with my DC and says he loves me

He's active around my friends as in we double date etc

One of my friends said he can look but he can't touch and her now future hubby was the same

Social media is so difficult he said he had a particularly bad experience with an ex and it jaded his views on what he shares

To add in the beginning of our relationship he worried it would go tits up and I would walk so I don't know if not posting about me is a security thing

It's a bit suss. Social media is a lot of temptation. Ruined my marriage and like yours he tried to turn it back on me saying I was invading his privacy. Yeah, I had every right to be suspicious as he was being shady on social media chatting up single women, telling them he was separated.

I don’t think not liking them means anything, liking them means he would be a bit of an idiot - especially if he knows you can see it! Fair enough to the not posting. But why does he need to follow random girls? There just is no need. It is about respect.

My ex was the same which is maybe why I share this viewpoint
His family all know about me his friends etc
He has always said he trusts me implicitly and he knows my background all of it so I can't see him actively cheating
When we had the discussion early on he even said he doesn't like what he would've when he was single because he knows he is spoken for

Just don't know what to think