Scared of falling in love

[Scaredycatt]

I have recently come out of a long term relationship. We were together for 8 years and he still my best friend. We can't be together because there were some issues in my past and I can't get over some mistakes he made relating to them. I think this is more my problem than it is his.

We still see each other all the time and hang out together though. But recently I met someone who likes me and I like them. The thing I can feel myself terrified to fall in love again.

Maybe it's because I'm not really over my ex or maybe it's because I just feel that I'll never be able to trust anyone the way I trust him.

Don't really know why I'm posting. I just feel tired and confused.

OP - totally normal.
Give yourself time - you had a long relationship and can’t possibly be ready for anything.
Just take it slowly.
There doesn’t need to be a rush.

Just enjoy being single for a while. We don't have to be paired off all the time!

Just take your time and keep it light. Date a few different guys just for fun; movies, concerts, beach, etc.

You are still, essentially, in a relationship with your ex, so it’s unlikely a new one will work out.