I’ve name changed for this because I’m a bit embarrassed for some reason!
I’ve been with my DP for over 4 years, living together for about 1.5yrs, both in our early 30s. I absolutely adore him, still find him hugely attractive and have never had any interest in anyone else. We never argue, enjoy each other’s company and get along really well. A lot of my friends would say we have a pretty close to perfect relationship.
Now for the “but” - I just don’t feel like our sexual relationship is as passionate as I would like and I’m looking for some advice on what I can do to move this forward.
Sometimes I feel as though we’re shy around each other, like being naked and sexual is something we’re embarrassed by? I’m not really sure how to describe it - I don’t think either one of us has ever verbally initiated or talked about having sex unless we’ve had a few drinks, I don’t feel confident to talk about sex with him or what I enjoy. I have no idea why this is - I am a bit of a prude in life but haven’t had this issue with previous partners!
We have sex pretty regularly, at least once a week. This will usually start with cuddling and move forward from there. Sex always happens in the bedroom, although we’ve had our own place for a while now we’ve never had sex anywhere else - I don’t know if it has any truth in it but I just assume other couples have sex on the sofa or in the shower every now and then!
Urgh I feel like I’m rambling a bit now, has anyone else ever dealt with something like this? I feel like perhaps if we both feel this way and I make some moves to rectify it then we might both be relieved we’re over the weird hurdle, but I have no idea where to start.
Thanks to anyone who made it to the end! Please be gentle with me 