Is it me being needy?

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Ok I've been with my dp for 4 years. We have a dd together and I have 3 previous children.

He's not the best at talking about his feelings. He will always tell me he loves me verbally and over text every day.

I left my previous dh because I didn't really love him a s I should. I absolutely love my current so more than anyone I've ever been with. I always tell him how much and I'm always thinking how lucky I am to have found someone that I'm so in love with and attracted to.

Anyway dh isn't the best at talking about his feelings apart from sying he loves me. I asked him earlier what he loves about me that he liked at the start and he couldn't really says - we are very different.

I suppose I just need the reassurance that he still fancies me and is attracted to me but I just don't get that from him

Am I just being needy?

You might be needy, but it depends on how the relationship is in other ways. Does he show you he is attracted to you? Does he pull his weight? Is he happy to see you when he comes home? Is he affectionate inside and outside the bedroom?

If yes, then your need for him to verbalize is because you are speaking different love languages. My dh would look at me like a rabbit in headlights if I asked him to verbalize feelings, but his actions show me everyday.

Every single day he tells you that he loves you yet you still need reassurance that he fancies you.
What does this tell you? Is the problem with him or with you?

It does sound rather like you are being needy, OP - but it's hard to tell from one short post exactly what the dynamics are between you and your DP. Nor do we know what might have happened in your own life - particularly early on - that might be foundational to how you feel now.

But, taking it at face value, yes, a little needy.

Your post alone does make you sound quite needy but as others have said there is little detail to go on. As he tells you he loves you verbally and by text every day, it sounds to me as if you have very little to worry about. Is there anything else about him that has made you question how attracted he is to you?