DH road rage

[DustyTheBin]

Have NC. We were just driving back from a family event (DH driving) when he wanted to change lanes and a car wouldn't let him in the lane he wanted to be in. Traffic came to a stop at the lights and my window was down and he started shouting over me at the other driving, swearing and going mad because the other driver hadn't let him in.

I was inches away from the other driver who was arguing back. I am pregnant and thought in any context it would have been ridiculous but found it especially bad because I'm pregnant and felt vulnerable in between two arguing men who were childishly suggesting they park up and go for a fight (obviously that didn't happen.) the lights changed and everyone carried on as usual, no more shouting or anything, but I was quite shaken and haven't wanted to accept DH's apologies because it's not the first time he's lost his temper like that and I don't think it's acceptable to do that ever but especially when im in the car.

He's now in a huff feeling sorry for himself. Am I over reacting?

No you are not. Your husband and the other driver are absolute fucking gobshites.
You need to have strong conversation with your husband about his driving behaviour. It's unacceptable.

No you are not over reacting at all re his driving behaviours. He should feel ashamed of himself.

What is he like day to day; has he shown such tendencies towards other people before now?.

You are not over reacting op. I had a similar experience with DH a few years go and our DC we’re also in the car. My trust I. His ability to prioritise his family’s safety over his own macho needs was damaged and has not been fully restored. No advice, sorry.

My DH did something similar once when I was pregnant with DS1. I spoke very strongly to him about a) how unsafe I felt and b) what a poor example behaviour like that would set our son. He has never done anything like that since (at least with me in the car) and has made obvious efforts to control his temper when driving. People can change their behaviour if they really want to, but he needs to recognise that it is wrong and want to change.

I would find some recent articles where this has escalated into violence (remember last year when that man was murdered by gypsies after having a road rage argument) abs show them to him

Driving really does bring out the worst in some people, mainly men but I've known women to lose it as well. My DH, who is usually the most mild mannered man you could ever wish to know, has been known to swear about other drivers, he doesn't suffer fools gladly. I pull him up on it and he calms down quickly.

Your OH does need to listen to you, OP, you could definitely do without that macho crap when you're pregnant.

I think that this is a bit of a red flag tbh. My stbx was exactly the same - couldn't (or wouldn't) control his temper, and didn't change when we actually had dc.