To want to scream F**k off at your DH

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He is such an arse and I literally cannot bare him sometimes. He's just makes me feel like shit.
It's boiling here today and the kids didn't want to go anywhere so I said I was going to head out for a walk. I'm very overweight with asthma but trying to lose weight/get fit so was going to walk into the village and back which is flat.
I go to get changed and when I'm done both kids are ready to go for a walk/scooter ride with daddy down a massive valley full of hills. I said I won't be able to manage that in this heat etc and then I get told 'go on then, do what you want and not go out with your family' 'no no go without your family' when I argued he ignored me and then when I'd said I'd come he wouldn't wait
I went on my walk, they got back just before me and he goes 'oh you're back already' in a tone implying I haven't done much.
All this is already after other comments all weekend, one of which telling the kids that as I only work three days I sit around the other two doing nothing.
He's such a shithead!!
Sorry I had to let it all out somewhere!

That is dickish behaviour. Is he often like this?

No he doesn't - he sounds as if he used the OP's walk to make her look bad whilst he looks like a hero.
How would you know? I don't expect you can read his mind. Personally, in his shoes, I would have been frustrated that OP would have chosen to go for a walk alone on a family day rather than try at least to do a bit of walking with everyone.

Personally, in his shoes, I would have been frustrated that OP would have chosen to go for a walk alone on a family day rather than try at least to do a bit of walking with everyone.

Nobody was even interested until she wanted to go for a walk!

I too think he was disappointed you didn't want to go with them. You could have at least tried. You sounded like you wanted to go on your walk by yourself no matter what.

He isn't being very nice at all. But seize the moment and really try with the weight loss. Walking is amazingly good for you and will burn calories if you up the tempo a bit. Buy a Fitbit or equivilant and it will show you about getting your heart rate up and how many calories you have Burt which may inspire you. Good luck

If he was disappointed he could have suggested a compromise ie she walk part of the way or they go op’s route.

Insulting and trying to alienate op by insisting she didn’t want to be with her children is abusive and bullying behaviour.

If my DP wanted to go with me on a walk he’d say he wanted to join me and suggest ways to make it inclusive for me and the kids. No way would he insult me and he would wait for me to join him not strop off.

Op is your husband like this a lot? Undermining you in front of the children making out like you don’t want to be part of the family to be spending time with your children is abusive and trying to manipulate your children into thinking you don’t love them.

I agree he could have suggested that. But it sounds like op didn't want to have their company and wanted to go by herself.

I thought he was being nice, I have to force my OH out for a walk. I don’t really see your problem?

Errr how can you possibly not see the problem. He was being really rude to OP. It sounds like he's lashing out OP in a really unhelpful way, particularly as she's attempting to lose weight.

Yet again, if this was the other way round the replies would be different. You'd all be saying he's an arse who didn't want a family walk

He was nasty OP. My mother was asthmatic, when it was bad, she really struggled. He knew exactly what he was saying. Good luck with the weight loss, it's not easy trying to exercise with asthma. What about swimming? Would you be able to do that?

OP said it was a boiling hot day and the kids didn't want to go anywhere. As soon as she got ready to do something by herself, they suddenly wanted to do something that she didn't feel capable of doing, and then he whined and moaned about it in front of the DC.
Dickish behaviour.

OP said she was going for a walk, he got the kids ready to go, scooters and all so they could go together as a family. Op says she’s not going with them, I think he was probably a bit pissed off. I would be if my OH would rather go on his own when I’d got everyone ready. And if it was the other way round, him not wanting to walk with the family, you’d have lots of posts saying what a twat he was!

No, you have totally misread what she said. Nobody else wanted to go anywhere then when the OP got changed, he suddenly decided to do a different walk that would have been difficult for the OP. He was point scoring and being a twat.

Can completely understand why you're fkd off with him.
Don't take it! Next time he tries thus stunt in front of your kids say "I think you and I need to have a serious talk" and make sure you do tell him later how the fk he's meant to behave. You are his wife, he needs to show some bloody respect. What is his problem?

No, don't let him browbeat you into thinking you're being sensitive .

Bahhhhhumbug - your tale of woe was unbelievable. So glad you showed him up. What an AH!!

He's being a dick and treating you with contempt.

Use his nastiness to lose the weight and rub it right in his face!