I'm new to dating again after the end of a LTR that blew up last year. I've had three dates with this guy, and though I want to see him again I think, I'm unsure whether I should.
I'm aware I'm probably still "in recovery" from broken heart, so just wondering what others think.
In terms of what's good-- he is/seems very sweet, genuine and romantic. He's good looking and a great kisser. We have a lot in common in terms of shared values and interests. It feels natural to hang out with him and as though we've known each other for a while. It's also tbh a lovely ego boost to be with someone who seems very keen.
What's concerning me--he's very intense. He's told me he really likes me and is talking about the future too much. I don't know if my still being hurt from ex is affecting how I'd feel about this normally. More importantly, he's never had a long term relationship, and although he's in his 30s he's never slept with anyone (went to all boys boarding school then says he never wanted one night stands.) He also has OCD, which means he finds sex tricky due to the loss of control. We did end up sleeping together on 3rd date and obviously it was awkward and not very good as it was his first time! I wonder if he's very into the idea of being in love/having a girlfriend rather than me specifically really, in the same way a teenager who's never had a girlfriend would be.
On the one hand I'm aware that everyone comes with baggage, and was prepared for that going back to dating, but of the "ex wife and children" variety rather than this. I do like that he's been totally honest about all of this (my ex was a terrible communicator and simply lied about lots of things.) He's got a very successful career and seems like an interesting passionate guy. I do fancy him, and we could work on the sex, but...are these red flags, do you think?