Wife and I met when were 18 and have been together for 20 years. We have 2 kids and a comfortable lifestyle. We had mismatched libido's right from the start. I had high and she had low. Over the years I realised that she didn't really enjoy sex that much and she was usually just doing it to make me happy. This made me feel crappy so I worked on lowering my libido. It seemed to work pretty well as I realised that sex is overrated. I am at the point were I don't really care if I get any ever again. We have sex so seldom now that when we do have it, it is pretty bad for both of us. The only problem is the wife's libido has started to increase. I try to remind her that we never really enjoyed having sex, but she seems intent on getting it on every other day. I have taken to sleeping in the spare room. This is upsetting her, but I don't see why she can't lower her libido like I did. The other 23 and half hours a day are really great.