Father not seeing DS after argument

[Felicityx01]

Hi all,

Me and my ex and his mother got into a very big argument just over a week ago and my ex has had two days off as I know his rota and has made no effort in texting or trying to see DS, it's very unusual the last thing he said is he'll take me to court cause he wants more access which is absurd as he has DS 3 days with overnights a week which is a lot of time for a 5 month old! The same week prior the argument he had him 4 days that week and I wanted to pick my son a few hours earlier as one of my family member rarely sees him and that's what we got into a big argument about. So hes playing the ignoring game with me and spending his days off with his gf no doubt, anyone had similar experiences or any advice on what I should do or shouldn't do? I have arranged mediation myself to try and work it out with him next week and they sent him a letter but no reply as of yet, should I just let him be?

Can’t really offer any advice but I’m going through the same situation here. I’m keeping a diary now in case we go to court. I’ve sent a text asking for him to contact me about one of our children as it’s very important information I need to feedback to him. He didn’t show up for contact last week either. I’m not expecting him to contact or show up next weekend either but at least I can show the court I’ve done everything I can to promote contact.

Pixikitten0123 aww sorry to hear that! I don't know why they won't make the effort! I know we got into a big row but I doesn't mean he can ignore his son, exactly if he takes me to court I will show that I tried to communicate with him via a mediator if he doesn't show then that's on him it will look bad in court for him!

theres nothing to do. you cant force someone to see their child.

Five months is very young for that much overnight time away from their primary carer

Can you have set days and set nights?
This would also help as if you go to court then you can say that you have both agreed to a set routine but that he either has or hasn't kept to it?

I have a court order (Second one) and even the day before the second court case he said he wasn't seeing them. He was taking me to court for more access!! crazy. You carnt force someone to want to be interested. Have you looked at parenting plan? you can find one on line, fill in what you think it should be and ask him to do the same ( a lot cheaper than mediation)

“Five months is very young for that much overnight time away from their primary carer”

Who’s the “primary” here? He sounds, until this last week at least, just as involved in his DS’ care as OP.