Should I run for the hills or overthinking?

[YellowArdvark]

I need advice on this ... long story short I developed feelings for a close friend and told him, he wasn’t keen, we both took a step back.

Fast forward a year, we’ve become friends again but it really is platonic for me especially as I am now with a lovely man. I missed my friend as a friend though once the extra stuff went away so was happy for a low key friendship with him. New DP knows the history and doesn’t mind.

Friend though is acting odd.He told me he was single and lonely two weeks ago, then last week that he’s seeing a girl but doesn’t see it going anywhere. He’s kind and nice but telling me his past relationship problems (not the current girl) as well as saying he thinks I’d be good in relationships. He’s also annoyingly cagey about his plans ie telling me he’s doing something Friday evening then when I ask what he’s up to to make chitchat he won’t tell me.

Am I overthinking this or is this weird?

Definitely overthinking and over invested. That is probably why he is being evasive. Concentrate on the person who is actually interested

Oh don't even go there with him, you have a lovely new dp now. I'd be concentrating on him and him only. Sounds like this guy just wants to play mind games.

He quite likes the thought that you fancy him (I know you don’t now) so he’s trying to keep you intrigued enough to be an option.

He’s on a little ego trip.

He's a twat.

I think he is reacting to you no longer being ‘available’ but suspect if you were available again he would still not want to commit to you. It may not be an intentional thing but either way I don’t think you have a future with this ‘friend’ and having him around may not be good for your current relationship (or if that doesn’t work out for any future ones either)

What @JuicySwan and @Slightlyperturbedowlagain said!

What Swan said

Sigh. I wonder if you’re right. He’d claim otherwise but I do wonder if he knowingly led me on the first time

When I told him a year ago his first comment was “I know” and his second was “I’ve just started seeing someone” that he hadn’t told me about

He enjoys stringing you along and playing mind games. Stick with the one you've got.

Don't be surprised if, once he realises you truly are not interested in him romantically, he suddenly starts showing an interest in you. Don't fall for it.

He doesn’t want to commit to anything but likes the fact you fancied him. He sees it safe to play mind games with you now that you’re not available. If you did become available he would probably stop.