Feel like I'm grieving over my ex of 20 years ago who just died.

[Rainatnight]

My ex, and first big love, had just died. I'm unexpectedly devastated. I feel I have no right to be. We broke up 20 years ago - it was a college romance - and life has moved on. But I'm so extremely sad.

Is this weird?

Not weird at all - hugs x

Perfectly normal, you are allowed to mourn the loss of anyone who mattered to you whatever the circumstance.

Of course it's not, a person you loved has died.

I don't think it's weird at all to mourn someone who played an important part in your life, no matter how long ago it was.

My first bf passed away a couple of years ago. I found out by accident. We broke up 15 years before he died.

I definitely grieved!

How you're feeling is natural. I'm sorry he died x

YANBU I'd be sad too and it's been 30 years or so.

Thank you all so much, you're incredibly kind.

I've been on the verge of tears for a few days, not sleeping properly etc.

Will write more when DP's in bed if people can bear my witterings. It's really helpful just to get it out and I'm worried people IRL won't understand.

I've lost some people from my past recently. It hurt much more than I expected.

not weird at all.

Not weird at all

I think it's sad when anyone you know/knew passes, so with it being someone you once loved it's understandable.
I cry all the time at people passing on films so it's definitely fine to have a cry about this

@ Rain.
So sorry. I understand your grief.
I lost a very good friend a few years ago. We had never been in a relationship, but I loved him sincerely.
When we lost him, I felt devastated.
I still talk to him daily, and miss him so much.