Are my expectations to high in thinking.....

[Bubblesandcake]

A guy should WANT to drive to my home (half hour away) to see me as I'm a single parent with hardly any free time without point scoring on who visits who the most? I only get every month free in which I drive to him.
Take me out for a meal? When he does come to mine on a weekend I buy the food we eat and cook it.
Be told that he needs more me and him time? I can't help the fact my ex doesn't help.
He is far too busy to see me during the week. I live too far away but he can make plans to see friends etc. Am I not worth an evening of time? When I asked his answer was well you always have your kids.
Say no to him visiting after football at 10.30 and leaving the next morning. He plays football one a week half way between his and mine so easy for him to visit (even if that's the only time he has).
His argument is 'dont be annoyed at me for not visiting when you don't visit me'. I argued that I can't I have dc's home. He argues well 'in life you shouldn't ask someone to do something you are not prepared to do yourself'. Completely ignoring the fact I can't.

This doesn’t sound like it’s going anywhere
Cut your losses and move on

I'm sorry OP but I think the PP is right in saying that this isn't going anywhere For what it's worth, I don't think YABU however this guy doesn't appear to. Find someone who's more respectful! It will be worth it in the long run x

Get out quick before you get in any deeper. You deserve respect and understanding. Good luck x

I agree with everyone else. This doesn’t sound like it’s going anywhere.

Your expectations aren't too high. But they clearly are for this person. He sounds like a bit of a waste of space. You deserve someone who values and respects you.

In short, agree with the others.

He's a prick, get rid.

I'm in the same boat (ex doesn't help), I won't date someone who isn't understanding

You could talk to him and explain you're not happy. You could explain that if xyz doesn't change, you don't see a future for the relationship. He might surprise you...or he might not, in which case you'd be perfectly justified in ending it.

He's just not that into you and wants a partner who can visit him etc rather than him do all the running. You are both at very different stages in your lives and it's clear it's not going to work out.

Cut and run
He is not the one for you
(and sounds a bit of a dick with the “don’t ask anyone to do anything you aren’t prepared to do” BS)

He's just using you for meals and whatever else he can get. Send him on his way. You deserve better.

I don't think he's right for you at this point in your life OP.

Thanks everyone. It's over now!

Wow op, very impressed! Keep your standards high and accept nothing less.

Gosh OP well done, very quick. Good luck!