Ok so how would u feel if your in laws invited you to theirs next weekend to celebrate your oh's nieces 1st birthday (their grand child) .. you live 3.5 hours away and work full time. Leaving work at 530 pm, home 630pm. Leave home 730pm and arrive at 10pm after a v. long day/week of work plus the travel. They ask that u arrive the fri night so u can get up early with them sat morn to prep and set up the party... reeling off a whole list of things theyll need you to do. Now of course im happy to help on the day a bit b4 the start but i dont like that my MIL has told us in this way... we are invited for a party, we are full time working parents who live hubdreds of miles away... is she taking the pi**? How would u feel?