How do you actually get them to accept it is over?

[SusanandFrancis]

I have told my husband I'm done with our marriage. He flies off the handle and mutters about leaving. Upsetting but par for the course.
Then that hours pass and he seems to think because I've been civil/ not brought it up again and again, he acts like I was just in a bad mood or joking.
And I have to do it all again. Can't change the locks. Just need him to commit to leaving and tell me when.
Anyone been here?

Start divorce proceedings.

Tell other people, including his friends and family, that it’s over. Once other people know it’s harder for them to ignore it!

Thanks. Both good ideas.

You can leave.

If you’re the one ending the marriage, move out! That’ll send a pretty obvious signal.

Thank you. I'm worn out with it all.

I know it's exhausting, but you need to keep banging the same drum.

"I see you're talking to me again now. So when are you moving out?"

"Would you like me to help pack your stuff?"

"Do you have a date when you'd like to tell the DC you're leaving?"

Put the ball in his court.

Thanks. You're right. I suppose he's doing it precisely because he wants to wear me down. I will keep at it.