My parents divorced when I was young and both remarried and I get on well with my step-parents.
My relationship with my DM is a difficult one. She’s very self-absorbed and I find it easiest if I keep her at arms length.
My dad died very recently after a short but grueling illness.
DM has barely contacted me (I suspect she’ll turn it round and say she’s felt rejected/unneeded/uninvolved). My stepdad hasn’t been in touch at all which has surprised/upset me. My sibling is grieving for my dad but is acting selfishly and whilst we generally get on, I cannot rely on them. My stepmum is lovely but I feel overwhelmed at supporting her through her grief when I have my own too, and I don’t feel that I can lean on her at the moment. I am not close to extended family.
I just feel so let down by my DM and sibling, my blood relatives. I guess I feel like a chunk of me has disappeared with my dad and I’m left with dm who is difficult and sibling who I don’t feel I can rely on.
Thankfully I have DH who gets it and is supportive, and lovely DC.
I suppose I feel like my family has unraveled. Nothing has actually changed but knowing my dad was there buffered things a bit.
No idea why I’m posting. Just good to get it off my chest.