What would you do?

[Turnedovernewleaf]

Hello and thank you for reading,

I have just received a message completely out of the blue from a lady who my ex partner had been 'going out with' for some time, they broke up just before Christmas ( she has done some searching to get hold of me as I'm not on Facebook, twitter etc ) she has used a website where I have my business details advertised and messaged me via that.

The message says how long she was with him for and how a deceitful and shallow man he is .That's it short and to the point.

I knew all about this relationship and I also know how he cheated on her with other women.

Background
They met via a dating website and he put himself as single ( at this point he wasn't , he was lying ) he began a relationship with her , after time I found out. He became my ex but we are still living together. We have 2DC and he won't move out or give me more than 50% of house sale even though DC would live with me.

I would Iike to respond but don't know what to do

I'm curious to :
why now?
how long has she been thinking about it for ?
is she just being kind about letting me know ?
does she want to cause trouble?
Would she's screen shot my reply and send it to him?

I'm pleased that she thinks of him the way that she does.
I think ex thought she would wait for him. He enjoyed living in 2 worlds.
I'm just REALLY REALLY curious

What would you do?

Sounds to me like she doesn't know you know and is trying to get revenge on him. I would send a "thanks, I'm aware, we're not together anymore" and then not respond to anything further.

Don’t engage. Just ignore her.

Don’t respond. She’s likely bitter and trying to stir up shit.

Was she eventually aware that she was OW and stayed with him? And now says he is deceitful? Oh well, karma

I'm confused. Why is she messaging you. I wouldn't respond.

Thanks for your replies.

I'm Confused about why she sent the message too.

She did know about me and the situation.

Did you ignore her then?

@SingleDingle

I got the message this morning and still wondering what to do

Is she asking you a question? If not, I wouldn't bother replying. She sounds like she wants to engage in a mutual slanging match of your ex.

100% ignore and block

@notagain2018

No, no questions just how long the relationship went on for and how she thinks he is a deceitful and shallow man.

She is correct by the words she has used

Thank you @overnightangel

In all honesty I would just reply that you're aware and no longer together but don't want to discuss things further than that. Then block

But offer no further details or comments that might be used against either you or him,

She may just be looking for closure and validation and in that angry desperate streak of searching for it.

Or she may be trying to cause trouble thinking that still living with him means you took him back.

maybe she has something you can use against him THE prick to help u financially..there's a post on here yh and as I'm fairly new and only posted in last few months i dont know how to upload others helpful post but..

Hb posted naked pic...

very helpful i think...just read and you will know what i mean

only because i think WHAT if he is just a non freeloading cocklodger...

as in he is there freebie cheap rent wise..free food..washing etc and still slagging you off as a shit mom ex etc. .

still a pisstake xx

He is your ex. She is nothing to you. I would just ignore and block.

Why would you remotely care about some other woman’s thoughts about your ex? Bizzare!

Or alternatively, say thank you, yes, I know, that is why he is my ex.
Then block!

Thanks to all of you. Thinking of writing.....

Yes, I am aware of this and this is why he is my ex. The consequences of what he has done is beyond sad

That’s a great reply. Send that.

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