Kick Off or Leave It?

[TreadmillMom]

My husband and I are just coming out of a rubbish episode in our married life. In brief issues over division of labour, lack of appreciation, name calling, lie ins etc, etc. After a serious discussion (me to him), threatening separation if things did not change, life is on the up and I am much happier than I have been in years. He neglected me on Mothers Day but heaped all the fuss on MIL, which I berated him over. Anyway, today is my birthday and he has neither said or done anything, until the receipt of a virtual bouquet from my FIL into our joint email account wishing me a happy birthday, which DH saw before me and I have now received a huge real bouquet from a local florist ordered by DH. I suspiciously feel his dad?s email has prompted him to remember my birthday.
I'm not impressed!
As things have been going so well should I kick off or politely say thank you?

I would be gracious and say thank you.

oh for goodness sake say thank you - why would you kick off? and hwo do you know> He may have ore=dered them yesterday.

Smile and be happy

say thankyou
then put a small raw prawn in the pocket of his work jacket, secretly.

I think if he is making an effort I would accept them and not make a fuss. It is a bit crap, but if his normal reaction would be to do nothing this is at least an improvement.

say thank you, but next significant occasion, you would prefer it if his present arrived before he had been reminded by his father.

It's a pity if you can't accept a gift without a smile and good grace.

Say thank you.

He could have seen the email and done nothing, he could have seen it and said "Sorry I forgot your birthday".

But he didn't, he went and did something about it.

So say thank you. And if you want him to mark your birthday next year, get a friend to remind him, or drop heavy hints for a week or two beforehand.

Forgetting is NOT a deliberate act. Men are good at it, but it isn't a measured skill, it's something they CAN'T help.

Blame him when he's deliberately upset you, but not when he's made an effort not to.

you don't know for definite when he ordered them. so rather than an argument when there doesn't need to be one I would...

make a massive fuss about how pleased you are, what a lovely gesture, how much you love him and appreciate things like this. how it makes you feel worthwhile and loved and happy and is so nice after everything you've been through...

etc etc

that way he'll soon realise that it's much better to be in your good books and make you happy, than to forget!
and you never know, he may remember on his own next time!!

Hey TMM Happy Birthday - it's my birthday too!

Smile and say thanks, next year drop serious hints about what you would like, plan a night out, mark it in red on the calander so he CAN'T forget.

Happy Birthday to you too hellish, how young are you today? Anything special planned?
Okay, okay so I have taken all of your advice and graciously said, 'Thank you, they're beautiful?. He did ask if I'd thought he'd forgotten, I said, ?Yes?, he responded, ?Of course I hadn?t!?
Hmmm .

Happy birthday.
Never look a gift bouquet in the mouth, I always say.

I'm 35 today how about you?
I got a bike!!! and a bike attachment (the one with one wheel) so that me and my 2dds can ride to the ice cream shop!
Spending the day around the house and garden, still in my PJs (in Canada so 5 hours behind)
Not going out tonight, decided would prefer birthday tea with kids (am I going soft?) how about you?
BTW It's a Bank Holiday here how lucky it that?

No plans, and no presents ? obviously!
36 today and found a grey pube at the weekend.
God I sound a right saddo, I?m depressing myself.
Out on Friday night with the girls though, which is always an excessive hoot!

aw, not too late to go to pub for tea?
anyway have a great time out with girls, i would love to do that but I just moved to Canada, so my friends all so far away!