Anyone else had an LDR fail? Would like to hear how you got through it.

[RubyN]

5 1/2 months into 8 months of separation my ex broke it off. He said he had mental health issues, 'I need to be alone just now' bla bla - on social media I discover he actually left me to be with another woman.

I think I'm feeling more emotional now because we had plans to move in together this summer and I move back home next week. He was meant to come and help me move my things. Before the LDR began, he told me he was 100% committed and that I didn't need to worry about him meeting anyone else And we both made a massive effort with the LDR with Skype and visits, until he suddenly started blowing me off. I thought he really loved me.

So to be honest it's still pretty shocking to me that we didn't make it - I was so convinced we would, he said 8 months was no time at all and we'd get through it. I can't believe he already has a new girlfriend to share his life with.

It hurts terribly and I still feel like I'm stuck in a nightmare sometimes. Did anyone else have their LDR fail? How did you feel and how did you get through it?

Yup. Different circs (no ow) but a big argument and demands on his side for space to think that eventually led to him never being seen again (by me!).

I'm so sorry you're going through this but for me there was no closure as we never got to have it out in person. The only thing that worked was time and trying to move on using OLD as a distraction.

Really hope you feel better soon as i know it sucks xx

Strangely enough we did meet again in person when I collected my things but never mentioned the break up. Because he was a coward that avoided conflict at all costs, he didn't bring it up. I physically couldn't bring it up because I was so bereft that I knew if I even mentioned it, I'd probably collapse in tears.

Now, I wish I'd been able to have it out with him. But I was emotionally/mentally unable at the time.

I actually signed up for online dating last night (after 3 months), took one look at it and just thought 'no'! Ugh just the thought of having to start dating all over again, when I thought I was in a committed relationship and moving in with the man. My self esteem is also in tatters so I'm not in a good place to date.

Thank you

Mine has recently ended & it feels like a world of pain. Our problems really kickstarted with the distance and the pressure was too much to take for him

We weren't together long enough to have real issues or resent each other so the loss feels huge - i was looking forward to our future together & still want to spend it with him

Logically I know LDRs are too hard and with my MH issues & life changes it was bound to run aground

Still miss him every day and think of him about the stupidest stuff. He has reached out during a rough time and said I can talk to him but my feelings are too strong and painful to want a chat