Possible pregnancy casual r.ship

[UltravioletLove]

Hello all,

I've been casually seeing a man I met on OLD since Feb.

2 weeks ago we had a condom split. I got the MAP next day from my GP but realised today that I Should have been given a double dose as I take carbamazapine.

Phoned the GP who sent me for a blood test as it's still too early for a normal pregnancy test. The results could take up to 5 working days.

I have no idea yet what I'll do if I am pregnant. Fairly sure he wouldn't be thrilled.

What I'm wondering is

A) should I say anything to the guy at this stage? He's got professional exams soon that are v stressful and i dont want to add to that if I don't even know whether I am pregnant. But I am worrying about it a bit myself! Will he think it's weird I've done this test without telling him?

B) are there any home testing kits that would be accurate 2 weeks after unprotected sex? I'm a bit confused about this as most say accurate from the due date of your period. I haven't had one in months as I've recently come off the depo injection (only had it once).

Thanks v much

I wouldn't say anything until you know.

Why would you tell him? In fact, what would you tell him?

There is literally NOTHING to tell him

“I might be pregnant” = causing drama for no reason.
I don’t understand why you’re even wondering whether you should mention this or not. It’s a no brainer. Until you know you’re pregnant you don’t mention anything, because at the moment there’s nothing to tell and by mentioning it you’re going to cause him stress when chances are you won’t be pregnant anyway.

Why is it weird you’ve done a test without him? I’ve been with my partner years, we aren’t trying for a baby but if I thought I was pregnant I would take the test myself and if it was positive I’d tell him. If it was negative I’d chuck it in the bin and forget all about it within 10 seconds.

Are you sure you’re not secretly hoping to be pregnant? It’s almost like you’re trying to make this small possibility a big deal...

Don't say anything unless there is anything to say.

A first response test could b used after 2 weeks. Obviously the longer you leave it, the more accurate it is.

Get 5mg folic acid prescribed NOW if you might want to keep any baby. Carbamazepine increases risks of spina bifida etc.

Why would you even consider telling him yet?

No need to. I would wait until it was confirmed and, if positive, I had decided what I wanted to do about the pregnancy. If negative, no worries.

I would wait until his exams are done if you decide to keep the baby.

Most people test alone. They don't do it with their boyfriend or partner.

My doctor told me that if my periods hasn't returned after coming off drop to wait 21 days, after unprotected sex, to do a home test.

Chippy- it's the opposite really. He's a decent enough guy but I have no desire to have a family with him so the small possibility is really worrying me!

Gruffalo- thanks, I already take 5mg folic acid though, always have been prescribed it 'just in case'.

Thanks all, it makes sense not to say anything unless it's positive and was what I was thinking of doing really. I just had a passing worry that if I do present him with a positive result he might wonder why I didn't mention anything had gone wrong sooner. Suppose that's better than him having extra worry during important exams though. I certainly didn't want to create a big drama when it might be nothing.

If it was two weeks ago, you would likely get an accurate result with an early test now, so I would test and hopefully that would put your mind at ease.

Regardless of whether he’s a decent guy or not I don’t understand why the thought has even entered your head to tell him there’s a tiny possibility you could be pregnant

You’re just causing drama if you do that. If he’s a decent guy, why would you want to cause him stress?

I really don’t understand why it’s entered your brain to tell him something that is none existent at the moment. I really don’t.

i agreewith you chippy so much! infact i wonder if your my sister op. shes abit of a drama lama aswell. done the same thing and imagined the guy would be there to support her while she took the test, instead he told her that it wasnt his and not to "put that shit on him" and this is someone shes been dating a year! dont do it basically.

Alright, I've said I'm not going to do that.

You asked if I'm making a big deal of things because I secretly want to be pregnant. I was explaining that no, in fact the complete opposite is the case.

Just wasn't sure how much to keep him in the loop. Obviously not at all until there's concrete news is the answer.