Not sure about this one...

[Sillysausage12345]

Hi guys,

Quick summary, man fitted a new kitchen for me a couple years ago, said man since broken up with gf, we matched on tinder a couple weeks ago and have been out for a drink since... All seemed ok... not sure I felt the attraction there he’s nice looking, good job, presented well, he stayed but I banished him to the spare bedroom, not something he was particularly pleased about but my house my rules etc etc however...

He went away for a few days over the weekend and I’ve been getting a series of texts asking “what turns me on”, when was the last time I fully allowed myself to let go with someone”, “I’m going to change that attitude of yours” etc etc etc

So I have a DOM on my case.... ergh. Not what I was after. Been there done that wasn’t that keen looking back.

Anyway I thought no no I’ll give it another go, arranged dinner for next week, I replied with a 👍🏼 And the days I was free which is something that I do to most of my friends... and I get a reply “ if you ever send me a 👍🏼 Again we are going to fall out”

SERIOUSLY I just want to have a nice time I don’t want to be dictated to.

I’m now trying to think of excuses as to cancel next week but the plans have literally only just been made!!!!!

Please help me I’m not liking this situation very much!

Avoid that one at all costs.

Just say "no, sorry, changed my mind. Have a nice life".

Oh God, do yourself a favour. He sounds a twat. Send the same icons again and say 'oh dear, there we are fallen out. Don't text me again you nob'. Job done.

Just say sorry, I’ve changed my mind and block his number?

Dont bother with an excuse. Tell him you changed your mind. If hes not totally thick he will know exactly why.

“I’ve been having a think since your text about me sending a thumbs-up, and I’ve realised we’re not compatible, so I’m going to cancel now rather than drag this out. Best of luck.”

Is the message I would send, but I’m painfully nice and wouldn’t be comfortable with just ghosting (particularly if he knew my address).

He’s not a keeper, if this is him on his best behaviour then I dread to think who he is underneath.

I'd just say 'changed my mind' then block and move on. Easy peasy. He sounds awful so you really do need to block

Send him another thumbs up and tell him to do one!

I don’t understand- what do the icons mean?

Why the hell did you decide to give it another go when it was already abundantly clear what this guy was like and that you didn't like him well enough?

I do wonder sometimes.

Bin him. Now.

Not sure what the first icon is, but tbh it doesnt even matter. Bin him off, he sounds like a right twat and you'll spend forever dancing to his tune over every single thing as he thinks it's his right... Back to the drawing board and better luck next time 👍🏽Xx

It wouldn’t have gone past that first series of texts for me. You’ve been more than open minded. He’s just a knob. Tell him that you don’t see it going anywhere, cancel and block him.

Send him this🖕🏼and tell him to do one.

Trust your instincts, OP!

This is the kind of thing I idiotically used to ignore and got myself into some awful relationships. Older and wiser now.

He sounds controlling and he's started trying to get you to toe the line already. Red flag waving.

You don't need this hassle. No-one does.

Just message and say “had a rethink about next week and I’m no longer keen to meet up” then you are done. Don’t meet up with him. You’re just stringing it out and making it harder to get rid of him

Not a fan of the big thumb thing either but he's a twat. Can you just send him a waving bye-bye emoji?

Thanks guys, yeah I do agree with all if you, the reason I send the 👍🏼 Is because I may be but busy and heaven forbid I didn’t reply 😂 who knows what would happen then! It’s just me saying yes sounds good.

It’s only really been a few texts back and forth, he didn’t show any of those personality traits in person he only started the weird stuff when he was sat on the plane!

Going to have to knock this one on the head I think, plus I want a utility from his company so need to stay clear I think.

This is defo not how I imainged it to turn out in such a short amount of time!

Thanks again for confirming my thoughts xx

Sounds a first class arsehole, go with your gut feeling.

Wow what an arse 👍🏿 to all of the above advice.

What is the second icon? It comes up in chrome as a small pink square - dark brown in Milomonster's post so I'm guessing it's one of the emojis that has skin tone choices.

"On reflection I don't want to take this any further. All the best" Then I would send him the waving hand one.

Laughing face x

I'd send him this ✌️or 👎 the cheeky sod!