How do I fix this?

[WitsEnd9000]

Hi everyone. Im new here and I really meed advice. I think I am married to the wrong person and I dont know what to do.
I met my husband a year and a half ago at work and fell for him immediately. Our relationship progressed very quickly and withing 6 months we had married in Vegas.
I didnt really know H when we met and since I have got to know him he is nothing like I thought he was.
H works a 40 hour week which I understand is very hard for him but apart from that he does literally nothing, he has no hobbies or pasttimes so on his day off he just sits and drinks. Most nights, once hes drunk enough he will start the 'pity parade' a name and shame and a reliving of all the times hes been hut and who hurt him. This is very distressing for me as often he will become aggressive while talking about it. This has made me nervous to leave him as I believe I will then make it on to that list. H often gropes my breasts throughout the day, despite the fact I have asked him to stop and saying it shows a lack of respect for me. Sex is not for me, i know he feels willing to try but I honestly dont want to have sex with someone who engages so little with life and who has quite awful personal hugiene. I know he is honest and loyal and hard-working and thats great. For him, i find it hard to talk to him as I am afraid of his reaction and I know I should not have married him but now I dont know how to leave him. He has completely changed since I met him, like impressing me is not longer important and when I talk about things that bother me he will say ' oh youre awful bitchy today' He is very hard on my son who needs discipline but not to have snidy comments made about his appearance or his sexuality. I feel like H is a caveman but I know he is very sensitive and gets hurt easily. Please please. Any and all advice is apprecited. Xx

H

I think you need to get out. This is not how a marriage should work and it is definitely not a healthy relationship for your son to be watching and learning from. Sorry op but you made a mistake. Time to move on with your life and take the next steps.

Very short marriage! Your D's is not his, and no relationship there. It doesn't sound as though he is happy either. My reaction would be to just say wtf, pack my bags and go! You made a mistake, doesn't mean everyone has to suffer for it for ever more.

I know I made a mistake. But H feels like this is great, at least he hasnt voiced any concerns. Only that hes not had sex for 3 weeks

To be honest it’s kind of irrelevant what he thinks. If you’re so realised by him you don’t want sex and it’s not the relationship you want just leave. You don’t need any reasons other than you want out. You don’t need to justify your disgust/disappointment. If however you want to ‘fix’ it - seems unlikely by the tone of your post - and seems impossible given his level of life motivation then you will need to agree a way forward with him

You don't need to fix it you need to end it. If not for you do it for your son.

Fix it? That's not gonna happen. All you will do is defer the day, and face it again another time. Better sooner than later, and end the suffering for your D's now, not in a few months' time

You can't fix this. You cocked up majorly marrying someone before you actually knew them. Why on earth would you marry someone and bring them into your son's life after six months? Your only course of action is leave and divorce. And don't be so flipping stupid again. Take things slowly for your son's sake if not your own.